The 5 best prostate massagers for 2018 + BONUS user guide!

A good prostate massager is the cure for boring masturbation. Which leads me to a question:

Are you tired of chopping wood the old fashioned way?

You know the drill. When you’re laying in bed getting ready for a good wank? With your favorite porno video in one hand and your throbbing Johnson in the other.

Yeah, after a many years of the “same old, same old” things got boring for me too. So I decided to change things up with a different kind of male sex toy. Nowadays, masturbation is much more…orgasmic!


5 reasons why I love prostate toys:

  1. I can play solo or with a partner. I just stick it in my butt and enjoy the ride!
  2. Regular masturbation gets old and loses its lustre. This toy spices things up, making jacking off more fun.
  3. Every now and then I have trouble “getting it up.” I don’t need an erection to enjoy a prostate toy.
  4. They’re naughty. Sticking toys in my butt feels taboo, making the experience even more exciting.
  5. I love the feeling of fullness down there. Magnificent. Primal. Relaxing.


Let’s get right to it. This is by no means a complete list of all the stimulators out there. They are, however, all toys that I’ve used and tested extensively. So I know what I’m talking about.



** BONUS **

I’ve included a user guide that explains how to use a prostate massager right after the top 5 list. Make sure you check it out further down the page!

Mr. Racy’s top 5 prostate toys!


#1. LELO Loki

Here’s the reason this stimulator is my #1 favorite: the vibrations are simply the strongest, most powerful vibes I’ve ever felt in a prostate toy. Bar none.

It’s like the LELO Billy on steroids.

But what if I’m not feeling like getting my prostate pounded today? No problem. I can turn the vibes way down so I feel nothing more than a tickle. Enough for a light day massage session.

This male vibrator is a modern day sexual work of art. It can make me moan in ecstasy or squirm with discomfort, depending on how I use it. Regardless, this toy is great every time I use it.


Lelo Loki

The LELO Loki. Note the easy to navigate control pad on the left.


You may be familiar with the name Loki from Norse mythology. Like the namesake, this toy is full of surprises and satisfying attributes that will make any man’s prostate tremble with excitement.


  • The larger size provides that “full” feeling down there. More so than every other toy I have reviewed. A primal experience every man should try.
  • Controls are fairly easy to operate and become familiar with.
  • Like the Hugo, it’s powered by a rechargeable battery with excellent life.
  • The velvety smooth business end of the toy feels great and cleans up easily.


  • If you have a tight butt hole, it’s uncomfortable at first.
  • Somewhat expensive, but more affordable than the HUGO below.
  • No wireless remote. Not a bit deal for some guys, but I personally love the ability to control my toys from a distance. Not possible here.

Read my full LOKI review, right here. Also, read bout LOKI’s half brother called WAVE, here. Get my EXCLUSIVE 20% off discount codes there! You won’t find this deal anywhere else.


BUY LOKI here!



#2. LELO Hugo

I’ve written about HUGO a lot since it was released a couple years ago. I don’t use it as much as I used to, but it’s still one of my favorite horses in the stable – so to speak.

Yes, I know. Another toy from LELO. I cant help it, though. They make some of my favorite male sex toys.

Here’s why I like this one so much: the wireless remote control. For a long time I never had wireless toys, and thought of them as a silly gimmick. Now that I have one, I can’t believe I waited so long. Being able to have my hands free to do other things is awesome. I simply find a setting I like, and put the remote down. Voila! Hands-free!


Lelo Hugo remote control male vibrator

Toy on the right. Wireless remote control on the left.



  • It’s cordless, utilizing a rechargeable battery.
  • It comes with a wireless remote control.
  • A satin, soft feel texture that feels good in the hand, even better in the butt.
  • HUGE range of vibrations from intense rumbles all the way down to mild vibrations.
  • It’s a hands free device. Once inserted, your hands are available for other things and not fiddling around with a toy.
  • It’s waterproof. Enjoy it anywhere, even the shower!



  • It’s expensive. One of the highest cost toys I’ve reviewed.
  • Take some practice to get accustomed to the remote control and settings on the toy.

Read the full review of Hugo, right here. Get my EXCLUSIVE 20% off discount code there! You won’t find this deal anywhere else.


BUY HUGO here!



#3 Aneros Helix Syn

Syn is the prostate toy that started it all, for me. The very first one I purchased. It helped me learn about my body and how it responds to prostate play. It taught me how and when to move, and when to stop and be still.

With it, I learned the principles of hands free stimulation. And how to experience a prostate orgasm.

But I don’t use it much anymore, as I’ve graduated to bigger and better things. Syn does make an appearance every now and then, for nostalgia more than anything.


Aneros Helix Syn

The Aneros Helix Syn. Simple. Small. A great training device.



  • Very inexpensive, less than $40 US
  • It’s simple. No batteries to charge or vibrators to stop working.
  • The #1 best toy for beginners. The slim diameter is perfect for rookies who aren’t used to inserting things into their butt.



  • It takes patience and practice to use. Some guys report having hard time getting off with it.
  • This thing is like cocaine. Tolerance builds very quickly. It doesn’t take long before this toy just isn’t enough anymore.


Read the full review of Syn, right here. For even more excitement from Aneros, read my review of the Vice here.

Buy HELIX SYN here!


#4. Njoy Pure Wand

There’s something about cold, hard unforgiving stainless steel that makes it so perfect for sex toys. It’s raw. It’s naughty. It’s bad ass.

The Pure Wand never gets old for me. It’s a timeless toy that never rests for too long. It’s just too awesome to leave alone.


The best thing about this toy?

I can precisely control the pressure on my prostate when I’m using it. You see, the toy acts like a lever when inserted. When I’m laying on my back, a simple press down will nudge the other end of the Wand up. This applies more pressure to my prostate.

If I want a lighter touch, I just lift up. This eases the pressure on my prostate.

All in all, this toy is kinda like an exotic Italian sports car. It’s firm and unforgiving, but in the right hands, amazing things can happen.



Njoy Wand review

The Njoy Pure Wand is a timeless classic. It will probably out live me…



  • Stainless toys are the ultimate for durability and will last decades.
  • Men and women can BOTH enjoy it! It’s like getting two toys for the price of one.
  • A snap to clean. Some hot soapy water does the trick every time.
  • No other toy is built like this. Applying and decreasing pressure during prostate play doesn’t get any easier.
  • The balls on each end are different sizes. Use the big one when feeling frisky.



  • Semi expensive. You get what you pay for. Sheer excellence.
  • It’s heavy! A hand is always required to keep it on the right spot.
  • Steel holds temperature very well. If this toy is in a cold room, it’s best to put it in warm water for a bit before play time.

Read the full review of the Pure Wand, right here.

Buy PURE WAND here!




#5. L’Amourose Rosa Rouge

Last, but certainly not least, is the Rosa Rouge by L’Amourose. This toy is sophisticated. Like something designed by Coco Chanel. Looking at the picture below, one could swear that it flew in, straight from a Paris fashion show.


The best thing about this toy?

It has a nifty trick up its sleeve: it heats up! As far as I know, this is the only vibe that has this feature.

Personally, I think there’s (almost) nothing more uncomfortable than an ice cold sex toy. If it’s cold enough, it’s like jamming a dildo shaped ice cube up the butt. Not cool.

All those problems go away with this euro-style male vibrator. The operating temperature is perfect every time. It only takes a few moments for it to heat up, perfect for when I’m short on time and need to move quickly.


L'Amourose Rosa Rouge review

The L’Amourose Rosa Rouge. Elegant. Sophisticated. Stimulating.




  • It has a built in heating element, so it’s always at the right temperature.
  • Powerful vibrations. Right in line with LELO’s vibrators.
  • The flexible shaft is nice. Sometimes a completely rigid toy is a bit uncomfortable. Rouge solves this problem and it makes the toy a bit more comfortable that others.
  • It’s waterproof, so playtime can be virtually anywhere.



  • Expensive at north of $100 US
  • Charging is only available on the provided stand, which I’m not a huge fan of. I prefer to plug it in directly like most other toys. Not a deal breaker though.

Read the full Rouge review, right here.

Buy ROUGE here!



The top 5 toys you just saw were my favorites. But I own many more. Meet the other prostate stimulators that live in my personal pleasure chest, right here.



That concludes Mr. Racy’s top 5 prostate toys list! Drop a line in the comments or send me an email.

I’m looking for a new toy to try, and taking suggestions for what should be next.

Now, onto the user guide…


Here’s the bonus material!

** How to Use a Prostate Stimulator **

Now that you’ve had a look at my favorite anal toys, here’s how to use them.

These are general guidelines that work for most any p-spot stimulator. Each toy will have it’s own usage instructions as well. Those should be followed in addition to the techniques you are about to read.

Think of this guide as the foundation of prostate play. It contains the basics that you should know. Without a solid foundation, it will be more difficult to reach the holiest of holies, the infamous prostate orgasm. Read more about that topic here.


What’s in this user guide


It’s all a state of mind

As men, we’re physical creatures.  At least that’s what the rest of the modern world tells us.  It’s true to an extent, but our state of mind is an even more powerful barometer of our sexual response.

Relaxation is the KEY. Try to put yourself in “zen” mode.  This will help you gain focus, so you can fully enjoy your orgasmic ride.

For me, the only way to get in the proper mode is to relax.  This means breathing exercises, relaxing music, etc.  In my early days, I’d just pop the prostate toy in there and go to town, hoping for the best.  It didn’t take long to learn that if I’m not in the right mood, I can leave that thing in there for an hour or two and NOTHING would happen.  Can you say disappointment?!?

Nowadays, I take things much slower.  I’m methodical AND deliberate with my sessions.


It takes time. Allow for at least an hour.

I like to have AT LEAST an hour of solitude for this.  Two is even better.  The best time for me is when I’m home alone.  This way I know there won’t be any interruptions.  No girlfriend walking into my bedroom.  No kids screaming outside the door.

My phone and TV get turned off.  The lights are turned low.  I want this time all to myself.  No outside interruptions.  I want to focus solely on ME and only me.  This is critical for a successful session.

Maybe all this seems like overkill, but it really isn’t.  If you can’t devote this amount of time and dedication, just wait until you can.  It’s worth it.  This is totally different than regular masturbation.  Heck, I only need 5 or 10 minutes for that.  The lights and TV can be on.  I can pretty much do that whenever.

A good p-spot massage session is an entirely different matter.  It’s more difficult, but well worth it.



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Don’t touch your penis!

SERIOUSLY, this is the last thing you wanna do when massaging your prostate.  It will be extremely tempting.  And yes, playing with it during this time will feel damn good.  But DON’T DO IT.  You risk having an orgasm with ejaculation, and that’s not what you want right now.  The last thing you want to do is blow it (hehe, pun intended) and miss out on the rest of your experience.


Toys or fingers?

I’ve used both, and prostate toys are the best way to go if you want the full pleasure experience.  Personally, I think fingers are too small.  As a tall guy, it’s a real pain in the ass for me to reach around and keep things going with my hand.  It’s a physical strain as well as mental.  Mentally, I lose focus on the task at hand and that’s just not worth it.

It was in my best interest to just spend some money to get the best tools for the job.  Seriously, what’s it worth to you to have mind blowing orgasms, whenever you desire?  I have hundreds of dollars invested in my toy and lube collection, and I never felt one bit of buyers remorse for any of it.  Quality toys and lubes are expensive, but they will last for a long time.

Think of it this way:  after months or years, these costs break down to mere pennies per orgasm.  Definitely not too high a price to pay.


Lube is critical

Yep, and this should go without saying.  There’s no sense in playing unless you have a quality anal lube on hand.  It’s also important to be liberal with it.  Don’t be frugal or cheap.  Use plenty of it for the best experience.  Lube up the toy AND your rectum before you begin.

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As I mentioned earlier, I like to have a couple of hours set aside for the massage session itself.  So, before even getting started, I ALWAYS try to have a good bowel movement about an hour before.  This will help to get anything cleared out of my bum, reducing the chances of a mess later.

Then, about 20 minutes before I’m set to begin, I’ll take a long, hot shower.  I’ll pay special attention to my butt hole, making sure it’s totally clean.  The hot water helps me get into a nice state of relaxation, and also helps loosen up those butt and sphincter muscles.  The shower is also a good time to get yourself in the mood by rubbing around down there.

Once you’re clean, it’s GO TIME!


Getting into position

There are various positions one can utilize effectively.  Here’s the one that works great for me:  simply lay on your bed, on your side.  Whichever side you’re laying on, pull the knee on your upper leg (the one on top) up toward your chest.  This makes it easy to insert the toy, finger or whatever into your rectum.

Another good position to use is the squat.  It’s just like it sounds.  This is my second favorite, therefore I don’t recommend it for beginners.

Another good one is also the simplest.  Simply lie on your back and pull your feet back toward your butt.  With your knees raised and spread apart, it’s easy to access your rectum.




At this point, you will be actively using your favorite prostate toy. Do whatever it is you do to enjoy yourself. Follow the usage instructions or use the specific advice that I include in most of my reviews.

Continue to the next step below when approaching orgasm!



Ride the wave. Put it on cruise control

Once you have that first orgasm, it’s a simple matter of maintaining what you’re doing to achieve more.  Kind of like hitting the cruise control in your car.  Once I hit that first one, it’s smooth sailing.  I can usually hit at least 3 or four more within the next 5 or 10 minutes.  If I’m REALLY lucky, I’m having too much fun to even count the number.  At that point, I don’t care anyway.



Kick it up a notch by doing this…

Remember how I told you NOT to touch your penis earlier on this page?  Well, now is the time to do just that.  Once you’ve had your session and achieved your number of orgasms desired, it’s time to come down for the landing.  You can now proceed with your normal masturbation routine.  Personally, these are the fastest orgasms I can ever hope to achieve.  After an hour or more or prostate orgasms, the traditional ejaculation is literally only a few minutes away.

It’s BIG.  It’s intense.  It’s very satisfying.  Be sure to have a towel ready for cleanup.  YOU.  WILL.  NEED.  IT.  These particular ejaculations are at least twice as big as a normal one.



Well, that’s the end of my guide that details how to use a prostate toy. Remember to always play safe and only stick things up your butt that were designed for it.

You too can experience amazing sexual release by using p-spot stimulators. It takes patience and lots of practice to reach your body’s full potential for multiple male orgasms. It’s not easy, which is why so many guys give up early. Just stay with it and I promise that your sex life and masturbation routines will get better!



How about some prostate erotica?

Check out my really hot story called “The Passion of the Prostate: an Erotic Love Story.”  It might make you jizz in your pants.  In fact, I have a growing archive of erotic stories.  Check ’em out!


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Author: Dave

Hi, I'm Dave. And I'm fiend?!? No, not really. But, Kinda :) Actually, I'm just your average white collar guy who happens to have a soft spot for sexy WOMEN and HOT sex toys. Hence, these are my chosen topics for this blog. I'm fluent in 3 languages: English, Profanity and Sarcasm. I own a number of male sex toys, and my personal "toybox" is growing rapidly. But prostate toys are my favorite. So, enjoy the ride, and drop me a line if you have something to say!

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  1. I really like your healthy, matter-of-fact, non-judgmental approach to sexuality. Men, regardless of sexual orientation, have a lot of hang ups and misconceptions around our bodies and sex.

    Thanks to reading your personal and informative articles, I’ve purchased the Lelo Billy. As a gay man, although I fantasize about anal intercourse and being penetrated. I’ve only allowed myself to try it a few times. It’s only been recently that I’ve admitted to myself that I still judge myself for being gay and desiring anal sex. As a result, I’ve never allowed myself to explore prostate pleasure during solo play.

    I honestly didn’t believe it possible to enjoy anal sex or have orgasms without ejaculating. That is until I experienced this during my second session with the Lelo Billy. I felt the sensations that you described, orgasming twice without ejaculating! I will no longer doubt your sage advice and and very much looking forward to becoming more comfortable with my body, during solo play and with a partner.

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    • Dave

      Congrats, Erick! I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying yourself 🙂

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  2. Nice website!

    I just got a prostate vibe in the mail and unfortunately, the thing is too big to fit. It’s obviously going to take a while to be able to take it inside, even though it’s not THAT big. I tried for 4 hours today just to fit it in, and failed miserably. Any tips on stretching so I can fit it? How long is it going to be before I can increase the size I can take? Right now, even a single finger can feel uncomfortable, but I want to experience the fabled big O.

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    • Dave

      The best tip I can offer is to start with a finger and work your way up. Hard to say how long it will take, as every guy is different. Remember, practice and persistence will pay dividends in the end 🙂

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  3. Hi Dave, glad I found this really helpful site. A request for some advice if I may. I recently started taking an interest in my prostate, I’m 53 and it comes up in conversations. So I thought I’d buy a massager; not having played around there ever and not really reading up, i purchased a Rocks Off bad boy. On receipt I was shocked at its size. Liking a challenge I followed the advice and eventually managed to get it me, but couldnt get the last thick part in. After about 45 minutes of getting no pleasure from it, I gavevup and put it away. The following morning I tried again, somebpleasure but mostly frustration. So i read a little more and gave it another go in the afternoon and after about half an hour of sitting rocking on this thing I had what I can only describe as 5 mind blowing O’s one after the other. My body tensed until it could tense no more. Ibcouldnt wait to try again and several days later I did, but nothing, just frustration. I git the feeling of wanting to pee, but it didnt build tobanything despite repeating what id done previously. After 3 more attemptsbover the weeks I ourchased a Hugo. I gave that a shot today and despite the nice feeling I dont seem to be able to build to an orgasm. Sorry about the length of this but is this Normal?

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    • Dave

      Hi Phreeked:

      For starters, there really isn’t anything normal when it comes to prostate play. Every guy is different!

      Hugo and the Bad Boy are two completely different toys. It may take some experimentation to find the right way to use your Hugo. But once you do, you won’t be disappointed! Stick with it and try different things. You’ll get there!

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  4. hello Dave…what are your tips for using the njoy pure wand…i bought it recently just looking for some tips on the best way to use it…havent tried it yet but want to…the best lube for it to

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    • Dave

      Good choice on the Pure Wand, one of my favorite toys.

      Since the Wand is stainless steel, you can use any lube you like. If you’re looking for the ultimate in long lasting slipperiness, you can’t go wrong with a silicone lube. Swiss Navy makes a killer lube, check it out here.

      For tips on how to use it, I recommend laying on your back, and using a rocking motion that goes in the direction of your body. Read how I use it, here.

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      • very cool….thanks for the info…ill try that

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  5. Hi Dave,

    I recently purchased a Loki Wave after reading your review. It feels great, and I consistently get off using it! However, I can’t *quite* seem to reach a full hands free orgasm with it. It’s like I get to the brink, and then…nothing. Any tips?

    Also, do you have a prefer nice between Hugo & Loki Wave? Was considering both, and may still add Hugo later. Any point to getting Hugo when I already have the wave?

    Thanks so much.

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    • Dave

      Hey Alex,

      Glad you are enjoying the Wave! Well, in my experience, Wave isn’t all that great for hands free play. The reticulating arm and the shape of the toy really don’t lend themselves to being a hands off toy.

      Hugo on the other hand works pretty well for hands free action. It does have a tendency to not stay firmly planted, though. It never pops all the way out, but it can be difficult to keep it on the “sweet spot”. To alleviate this, I like to use it while laying on my back, with my upper body propped up on a pillow. I can then sit on it so it stays in place.

      Hugo is a very different toy but is definitely better for hands off use. The wireless remote control is killer, in my opinion.

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  6. So I tried this last night for the first time and wow. For one thing I never felt like that in my life or never even imagined I could feel like that it was almost too good if that’s it sounds weird but it’s true. I was in complete shock like 4 hours so much happened I was grinding my teeth like crazy and I still am today I was shaking my legs were f****** shaking and seen me in my arms it was like two good man like I felt like I was hooked on some crazy drug.

    What really got me was that I could never could even imagine how good I could actually feel and I couldn’t even get out of the bed for an hour or two like it literally left me speechless woke up today and I’m still in shock. It’s like I’ve discovered this insanely awesome Secret I still don’t even believe it last night was crazy intense but good. Now today I know what to expect and I’m really really really nervous so I only had it for 10 minutes and had to take a break and I can’t stop grinding my teeth are my legs can’t stop shaking it’s late mine says your system is on overload and not saying it’s bad but holy s*** this is so crazy stuff.

    High anxiety when I first start more than I’ve ever had and the weird thing is within seconds all of that goes with it it’s almost like too fast too intense but you want warm it’s freakin crazy on the head to. Other than that I woke up this morning feeling totally different better more energy less stressed like last night I got that high from the pleasure that response I don’t remember and I wasn’t even on drugs.

    It might take some time to get used to it’s almost like learning that you just want five billion dollars that same feeling. Black guy holding a big secret or stressed for pleasure for everything and nobody else knows about it just a select few every aspect of it that’s crazy crazy good though. Like I think about it all day and it’s so awesome but yet when it comes time to do it I would rather jump off a bridge it’s so contradictory it’s weird actually do you ever get used to it like the intensity.. even thinking about it earlier I started to shake and got a bit nauseous can you imagine that nervous over feeling that good like I said it’s a feeling I never had but yeah do you ever get used to it someone or is it like this crazy head games trouble every day til you actually do it.

    Hot last night I spent the first twenty minutes trying it I couldn’t get up for a half hour I can give it like I keep saying I keep saying I can’t believe it it’s like a dream how can I get rid of this insane anxiety crazy for doing it I actually get a bit nervous cuz I know I’m going to feel like good did a lot of drugs but none of them may be nervous that I felt that good will I have her address this is definitely a life-changer on my mood on everything it’s crazy again LOL

    any advice and once again I’m here saying well and grinding my teeth just thinking about it it’s an insane addiction I know. it’s definitely the craziest hand intense pleasure for addiction and it’s drug free my mind can’t get over it addiction what I can say was it’s the same or higher than any drug it’s crazy it literally took me to Extasy actually Beyond ecstasy which I didn’t know existed until last night without taking drugs.

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    • Dave

      Glad you’re enjoying yourself Timmy!

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  7. Hi Dave, I wanted to comment on why there are rumors of knockoffs on Amazon and why some manufactures do not honor warranties on things purchased from there. It is well known that Amazon provides order fulfillment for some sellers. When they do this all items with the same sku go into a communal “bin” if a fake has the same sku printed on it as a genuine item, since some fakes appear high quality it might go into the bin with a genuine item. Amazon could therefore inadvertently sell a fake even though it is sold by them if a fake item has been sent to them from other sellers and then placed with Amazon’s own stock. Hope this helps anyone wondering what the issue with Amazon is!

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    • Dave

      Ryan, thanks so much for clarifying this!

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  8. Hi Dave,

    Between the Vice, Billy, & Loki – can you give a brief opinion on each as well as a ranking? I would very much appreciate it. Thanks


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    • Dave

      Hello Cobb:

      I can certainly do that! Here are my thoughts:

      Loki – of the three, this is my favorite one. However it’s on the bigger side, so if you’re just starting out, this could be a bit tricky. If you’ve been at prostate play for a while, the “fullness factor” that this toy provides is phenomenal. Also, this one has the strongest, most intense vibrations of the three. It also has the widest range of vibration intensities and patterns. It’s also the most expensive of the three.

      Vice – I’ll have to rank this #2, purely because it’s designed to be used hands free. If you’re looking for a toy that you can just pop in and use your hands for something else, this is the toy to have. A decent number of vibration patterns, just not as strong as Loki. A great toy for beginners wanting to move up to the next level.

      Billy – reluctantly, I have to rate this #3. It’s still pretty awesome, although it’s definitely eclipsed by Loki. Billy is great for beginners because of its small diameter and relatively straight form. This one is great for couples, as your partner can literally fuck you in the ass with this one. It’s great for some in and out while vibrating.

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  9. Hi, so I first started prostate play when I was about 16 and I really enjoy it, I own an Aneros, the Rocks-off bad boy (cant get it in all the way) and I sometimes use my girlfriends rabbit dildo! I like the full feeling but I have tried and tried and cannot seem to reach orgasm from prostate play alone. What does happen sometimes, is that I feel like I’m reaching the point but I then end up peeing and sometimes pooing. It’s like the intense feeling forces my body to push everywhere… It feels good but also frustrating, like I was so close but not close enough!

    Do you have any tips for me? Surely I must be doing something wrong? Maybe I’m massaging my bladder or just not recognising the right feelings? It’s so frustrating. I love your product reviews by the way!

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    • Dave

      Hello Jim,

      Glad to hear you’re sticking with it and not giving up! It sounds like you’re really close.

      I have 2 comments:

      1. Have you tried getting TOTALLY relaxed and in the moment? Make sure you follow my preparation guide in this article. Also, since you own an Aneros, make sure you’re squeezing and releasing your pelvic floor muscles. This is what really makes that toy work. I have a quick primer on the squeeze and release in the “how to use” section of my Helix Syn review. Read about that here.

      2. Some men just can’t get off fully with prostate play. I’m not sure this is the case for you, since you seem to be getting really close. Remember, don’t try to force it, or make it happen. Just let it happen. Maybe you just need more stimulation BEFORE you get started? Have your girlfriend get you really hot, or watch some porn, perhaps?

      I wish you the best on your journey! Come back and write me when you get there!

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  10. Hello Dave! I recently caved in and decided to buy my first P massager in hopes of experiencing this incredible orgasm I’ve been hearing about. I really enjoyed reading through your website. It’s nice to finally find some organized info on the subject! So I bought the “duke” from fun factory at the recommendation of the woman working in the store and I’ve used it about 5 times now. Unfortunately I haven’t reached the big O yet. After reading through your articles however, I think I’ve been rushing the process and haven’t been in the right mindset for it so I’m eager to try that out next time. I do have a couple questions for you if you wouldn’t mind though!
    1. Have you used the duke from fun factory? If so what are your thoughts on it? I think I might be having trouble finding the right placement while its inside.
    2. Should I be moving the toy around while inside or do I just let it sit there with my hands at my sides?? I kinda went into this without knowing ANYTHING about prostate stimulation. I’ve never talked to anyone about it, never had anyone even touch my anus, and I’m struggling finding help online.
    People say try different techniques if something isn’t working but I don’t know what techniques mean. Are there actual proven “techniques” for prostate massaging or does technique in this case take a completely subjective route?
    Thank you for putting your time and energy into this! I’ve already learned a lot just by reading through your articles. Hope to hear from you soon!

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    • Dave

      Hello ANewPlayer!

      Thanks for stopping by. First, I’ll answer your questions.

      1. I have not used the Fun Factory Duke. It sounds like a great toy, and I hope to give it a try sometime. So many toys…so little time!
      2. Whether you move it around or leave it in place depends on the device. I suspect the Duke is designed to just insert it and turn it on. You might try try moving it around a bit with your hand. If laying on your back, try pushing down on it so the end in your rectum presses up against your prostate. I wouldn’t wiggle it, though. Rather try pushing it in different directions and hold it there until you find a position that feels good. Again, I don’t have experience with your particular device so it’s difficult for me to give advice about it.

      Achieving the big “O” isn’t always an easy process. What works for me might not work for you. Every body has a different response. The best advice I can give is located in my article that talks about using a prostate massager, right here. If that still doesn’t deliver any results, feel free to hit me up on my contact page, and I may be able to give you more personalized advice.

      All the best!

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  11. Hi! Great information, thanks so much. I’m trying to figure out the best way to use one of these toys on my bf. Should I blow him while it’s in? Or do as you said during solo maturation and just leave it in and not touch his penis till the end. Would soft pressure on the toy feel good?or maybe holding a vibrating bullet on the base so it vibrates? Any info would be great,throw anything at me! I’m ready and willing, but new to male ass play so would love some advice. Thanks!!

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    • Dave

      Hello May!

      Thanks for stopping by. These are great questions. It’s totally awesome that you want to do this for him. I’m excited for you both! As I mentioned, preparation is key. Make sure you have AT LEAST an hour to do this. Two would be even better.

      In my personal opinion, the preparation and how you turn him on, are even more important than using the toy. So here is how I would proceed, if I were you…

      Assuming he’s new to prostate/anal play, I recommend you start out like solo masturbation. To make it extra special for his pleasure, do a thorough job of warming him up BEFORE you even pop the toy in. Lick him all over. His ass, balls, nipples, ears, etc. Take a shower together, and give all parts of his body extra special attention. Do whatever revs his engine. Just don’t allow him to cum yet. And don’t over stimulate him.

      Once you’ve done all this, bring him back down to earth with a sensual body massage. Rub his shoulders, arms, legs, butt cheeks. Use a pleasant massage oil. The point of this is to get him to relax. So he almost melts and becomes putty in your hands. Remember, YOU are in control here.

      Once he feels like he’s ready, get the toy out. How you use it depends on the type of device.

      Now, to answer your specific questions:
      If it’s a dildo, you’ll be able to move it in and out. Your idea of holding a vibrating bullet at the base is an EXCELLENT idea. He will probably love this!

      If it’s a dedicated prostate massager (like a hands-free model), you probably won’t be able to manipulate it, depending on the device. Just leave it in there and his anal muscles will do the work. In fact, you should avoid touching the toy or his penis. Touching the toy with a vibrator, would be perfectly fine, though. This is a great way to buzz his prostate.

      Whichever type of toy you use, I highly recommend you do the following things: talk to him. caress him. Let him know that this is HIS time to feel good. Let him know how hot he makes you. How much he turns you on. How you want to see him shoot his massive loads. Remember, communication is key. Ask him what feels good. Encourage him to express how he is feeling. This will help you do the best job possible.

      When you’re ready to finish him off, THEN give him the blowjob of his life.

      I took some broad strokes here, since I don’t know the details of your situation. If there’s anything I missed, please write back and I will answer the best I can.

      Last, but not least, come back and let me know how it went!


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      • Thank you so much for the time you put into your reply! The toy just came in today, so we will be trying it this weekend. I don’t belive I can upload a picture of the toy, but it’s soft silicon 1.5 inch diameter and 4 inch long. My first thought when I saw it was “wow this is pretty thick” I’m wondering if I should start with beads or a plug, as I said before, he takes my finger very easily and isn’t tight and resistant,so this could just be my own paranoia. Also since this is his first time with a toy, should I not keep it in long? And then there’s lube. I love h2o jo, it’s water based and we use that for whatever games we want to play, it’s very thin. Will that do? Or should I get a silicone lube? He’s very submissive and in his submissive state of mind, he won’t tell me if he’s in pain until after we are finished (aside from the fact that he doesn’t mind a little light pain) but I obviously don’t want to cause any damage to such a sensitive area. Now my question about prostate organs… I know, I know, I’m getting a little ahead of myself, but that’s my ultimate goal here. To absolutely utterly blow his mind. I want him itching to get back for more. So what are the basics of giving him a prostate O? I know this is going to take some practice and exploration, but I would like to go into it as educated as possible so I don’t make any mistakes and speed up the prosses to the ultimate goal of giving him the best organs of his life! This Friday will be our night to experiment, I will absolutely let you know how it goes, and probably have more questions! Until Friday I intend on reading your entire site and researching a lot! Any other tips and tricks would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
        Also, I’m far from close minded, throw anything at me! I want to learn

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        • Dave

          Hello again, May!

          Congrats on the new toy. I’m sure you two will have “loads” of fun with it! 1.5 inches is a pretty sizable toy for a first timer, so you’ll probably need to get him loosened up before popping it in. Using beads or your finger beforehand would be a good idea. Just pay attention to his verbal and non-verbal cues and you’ll be fine. Just start slow and easy. And take your time.

          Now, to answer your questions:

          Also since this is his first time with a toy, should I not keep it in long?

          Once you get it in there, just keep it in for as long as he likes. The hardest part will be getting it in there. Once it’s in, you’re good to go. Any initial discomfort will probably go away after a few minutes. Just be slow and gentle. Let him set the pace.

          And then there’s lube. I love h2o jo, it’s water based and we use that for whatever games we want to play, it’s very thin. Will that do? Or should I get a silicone lube?

          H2O JO is a great lube. That will work just fine. Just a note, for silicone toys, it’s always best to use a water based lube. If you ever decide to upgrade to a stainless steel toy, then you can try out the silicone lube.

          To absolutely utterly blow his mind. I want him itching to get back for more. So what are the basics of giving him a prostate O?

          The best advice I can give is to use the article on this page as a guideline. This page is really geared toward the solo massage, but the process is essentially the same.

          These are the most important things to remember:
          1) make sure he’s relaxed,
          2) have plenty of time…at least an hour.
          3) leave his penis alone while the toy is in, even if he asks you to suck him off, jack him, or whatever. Remember, you’re in control, and the longer you can hold him off, the harder he will cum. He will thank you later!
          4) Make sure he’s in a comfortable position, whether it’s on the bed, couch, floor…whatever
          5) If you’re lucky and he happens to have some big prostate Os your first time, finish him off with the most bad-ass blowjob you can muster! If you like cum, swallow it all with a naughty smile on your face, and you’ll likely put him over the edge.

          Just don’t expect him to have a mind blowing prostate orgasm this time. In fact it could take many tries before he hits it. Just be patient.

          Oh, and here’s a pro tip that I mention in other places on my blog. Have him do this while the toy is in:

          Have him flex his pelvic muscles (also called PC muscles). Then relax them. It should feel like he’s “lifting” his groin area from the inside. The sensation is similar to when he urinates, and then forces himself to stop. This technique relaxes and contracts the exact same muscle group. Some folks refer to this as kegel exercises. Yes, guys can do these too!

          Also, I now have all my prostate pleasure articles combined into an e-book, for easier, more portable reading. You can download it for free on this page.

          That should get you started! I hope you two have a FABULOUS weekend! All the best.

          Feel free to ask any other questions you may have. This is exciting!

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  12. Thank you.
    I’ve been curious about this for some years since a girl I knew told me how she was going to give her man the most intense orgasm by inserting a finger and massaging host prostate.
    I did not find the courage to try it on myself for long time. Until I read this article.
    Five weeks ago I bought one toy and gave him some tries. The first time was good, got that “warm sensation” but no orgasm. I was not worried, after another couple of tries that went wrong (no warm sensation too), I started doubting that was only first-time over-excitation.
    I continued reading around the Internet and I started reading on some forums doctors saying prostate massage does not produce good feelings, and so I started really doubting on the whole thing.
    But I didn’t give up and yesterday on my 6th session I reached a powerful hands-free orgasm after anoint one hour. Unfortunately I did not achieve a second one so after 30 minutes I was exhausted and finished by masturbating myself and that was huge.
    I really thank you for this guide and for the others that are in doubt about this I only can say: it’s true, get relaxed and don’t give up!

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    • Dave


      This is awesome! I’m so glad my guide was helpful for you. Stop back by and let me know how you’re progressing with your prostate play.



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