Choosing a good prostate massager can be a challenge. If you’re new to this type of masturbation, it can be a daunting task to sift through the plethora of options available. It’s important to know what’s available to you and how to find the right one to suit your needs.
With literally hundreds of stimulators to choose from, this buyers guide breaks it all down, to help make your purchase decision simple and stress free.
Prostate sex toys changed my love life and provided the catalyst for me to reach new levels of orgasm. My goal is to help you get there as well!
They work for ANY guy
It makes no difference is you’re gay or straight. Trans or Cis gender. If you have a prostate, these ass toys hold the key to personal orgasmic nirvana!
MUST READ: I recently got a very insightful email from a straight, happily married guy named Dan on this very topic. By the way, Dan also enjoys getting his prostate pleasured by another man. See it here.
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Table of contents
- The first step: which one to buy
- Type – vibrating vs. standard vs. e-stim
- Size – smaller for beginners, larger for the experts
- Material – silicone, ABS plastic, stainless steel, etc.
- Price – what’s your budget?
- Where to purchase
- Personal recommendations
- Additional information
This is where the fun begins. If you’re new to all this, I recommend you follow this step by step guide. I will walk you through the basics of choosing the right stimulator for your personal needs. These are the important things you need to know and decide upon, BEFORE buying one.
Before we start, let’s get one thing straight: there is no universal best male stimulator on the market. It all comes down to personal preference. One guy may enjoy the simplicity of a standard type, like the Aneros Helix Syn. Another guy might prefer the rumble and excitement of a vibrator, like the LELO Loki.
Ultimately, the best device is one that makes YOU happy and gets YOU off.
Don’t forget…lube is a requirement for male G-spot massage. Check out our best lubes page to see what’s available.
Let’s break ’em down into 3 categories: vibrating, standard and e-stim.
Vibrating: These are generally my favorite. The action is similar to a women’s g-spot vibrator, except the device is curved in such a way to accommodate a man’s body. Specifically to nudge against the prostate gland. They’re battery operated, some with disposable batteries, others are rechargeable.
Below you will find my favorite vibrating toys. Click a link or a picture to read the detailed review.
- L’Amourose Rosa Rouge
- MY #2 PICK – Aneros Vice
- Lelo Billy
- Lelo Loki
- MY #1 PICK – Lelo Hugo
- Lelo Loki Wave
Standard (non-vibrating): Let’s call these the standard massagers. No frills. They work simply by their anatomical design (to fit into a man’s rectum and stimulate the male G spot). Some are meant to be manually operated. Others are hands free, and merely need to be inserted, with the squeezing and contracting of the rectal muscles doing all the work.
Click the link or a picture to read the review.
- MY #1 FAVORITE – Njoy Pure Wand
- #1 FOR BEGINNERS – Aneros Helix Syn
- Aneros Progasm
- Tantus P-Spot dildo
E-stim: I currently do not have any of these on this site, as I have not had the opportunity to review one. Essentially, e-stim stimulates the prostate by inducing an electrical current into the gland. This is by far the most radical option available, and I hope to write some reviews about these in the near future.
The stimulator you choose depends mainly on your level of experience. I recommend that beginners start with a toy that has a smaller diameter or less overall size. One that’s too large will potentially cause discomfort when penetrating the rectum. A device less than 1.25 inches in diameter is good for starters. The Aneros Helix Syn is a great beginner plug.
A man with more practice should opt for something bigger and more girthy. Some are as wide as 2 inches! These aren’t for the feint of heart. The Njoy Pure Wand is perfect for the more experienced user. The wand is an outstanding tool, great for solo or couples play.
4 basic materials are used:
Plastic: generally ABS plastic. It’s hard and rigid with no flexibility. This is a durable material, just not as pleasing to the skin or your private parts. The Progasm by Aneros is a good example. Sometimes a rigid toy is just what you need, as a rigid device will apply more pressure to the P spot.
Silicone: This is the most luxurious option. Silicone is used in all sorts of sex toys. It’s hypo-allergenic and safe for your body. Remember, it’s always a good idea to read the manufacturer’s specifications before purchase. The Aneros Helix Syn (read the review) and the Tantus P-Spot dildo (read the review) are fine examples.
Stainless steel: When you really want to get down and dirty, this is one to use. Steel is hard, cold and very unforgiving. This is precisely why I like it. It’s nearly indestructible and very easy to clean and maintain. The Njoy Pure Wand is my favorite. Read the review, here. BONUS: it can used by him AND her. A true multi-purpose sex toy.
Glass: This is another common route to go, although I personally don’t recommend it. Yeah, blown glass with all those nifty colors can look really cool. I just don’t like putting things that can shatter inside my body. It’s perfectly safe, however, as long as you closely inspect the toy before use. Make sure there are no cracks or loose pieces of glass. The last thing you want to do is have a shard of glass get stuck in your rectum. OUCH! See my review of the Sinclair Select Onyx, as an example.
IMPORTANT: Always make sure your toys are phthalate-free! Read more about why this is important.
Anal toys can be purchased for as little as $10 or north of $250. The amount largely depends on what you can afford, as well as the results you hope to achieve. It’s better to spend a little extra cash and purchase a high quality device from a reputable manufacturer, like LELO or Aneros.
These toys will have better construction, and they will be hypoallergenic so you won’t have to concern yourself with rashes and the like. This will ensure that your masturbation sessions will be the best they can be.
For example, I would recommend an Aneros product, like the Vice, over a cheap, generic butt plug, even though they look very similar. The Aneros will cost more, but it’s well worth it. As the old saying goes, you get what you pay for.
I highly recommend that you avoid the cheap, no-name devices available online that you can buy for less than $20. I’ve personally handled these things, and my findings were not always good. Some of them emitted weird odors. Others were hard and very uncomfortable. And a few even had sharp edges where the pieces of plastic were joined together. No thanks!
Lots of options here. The easiest (and most private) way is to search and purchase online. There are tons of sex toy shops selling everything imaginable. Just open up your favorite web browser and start searching.
In most of my product reviews, I link to a preferred retailer or retailers for that particular item. You can visit that link, check the latest price and make your purchase.
Don’t be afraid to compare prices, though, because you may find a better deal than I can suggest.
I promote a lot of sex toys from Amazon. I’ve heard rumblings from friends and on the web that some of the toys sold by Amazon are knock-offs. I’ve had nothing but good experiences with these toys. They have always been genuine. See the comments section below for a great comment on this topic.
Ultimately the choice is up to you. A lot of the time Amazon sells them cheaper, but sometimes not.
Another thing to be aware of: for high end toys (ones that cost well over $100), the manufacturer warranty may not be valid when purchased from a non-authorized dealer. Just read the fine print and you’ll be fine. When in doubt, just buy from the manufacturer web site.
The device you purchase depends on your level of experience and comfort zone.
Personally, I feel the maximum diameter is the first thing to look at. Some toys are smaller than an inch in diameter and others are 2 inches or more! Ouch! Obviously, the ones at the smaller end are easier to work with. The downside? If it’s is too small for your needs, you may not get the pleasure you expect.
Intermediate – The Njoy Pure Wand is great for guys with more experience. The Lelo Hugo and the Aneros Vice and are outstanding if you’ve already dabbled in this activity, and want something a little more…stimulating. They vibrate!
**Check out my guide that discusses how to use these devices, right here. You’ll mainly learn more about my preparation techniques. Through trial and error, I’ve come up with some great tactics to help you achieve the elusive multiple male orgasm!
Read my ENTIRE anal pleasure series!
- How to find your prostate. read more
- Here’s how it feels. read more
- Here’s the PROPER way to massage it. read more
- Should you douche? read more
- ALWAYS use plenty of good lube. read more
- Try these tips if you’re having trouble reaching climax. read more
- Stimulators I love to use. read more
- Guys, getting a prostate massage from another man isn’t gay.
There are two main reasons for men to play with their prostate:
Medical – It’s commonly performed at home or at a doctors office, to eliminate toxins from the gland and improve blood flow. You can save yourself some time and expense by doing it at home with fingers or toys. Urologists routinely use a technique, called a digital rectal examination (DRE), on men to check for prostate cancer and to screen for prostatitis.
Sexual pleasure – a.k.a. prostate play. This is the aspect covered here, at MrRacy.com. Stimulation, done correctly, can help a man reach an entirely new level of orgasm via masturbation. These orgasms are more intense, and can have a MUCH longer duration.
It takes time and practice, however. A guy should never expect to have one of these orgams on the first try. Sometimes it takes weeks or months to get the technique perfected. For some men, it will NEVER happen. If this is the case, here are some tips and tricks to help make it happen.
How to find your anal hotspot
Simple. It’s located near the rectum, about three 3 inches or 2-3 knuckles deep. You can easily locate it with a finger, toy or probe. You can do it yourself, but it’s easier (and more fun) if you have a willing partner to do it for you! Read more about how to find it, right here.
What are these weird looking things?
They are toys just for guys, designed to be inserted into his rectum. The toy is shaped specifically for the male anatomy and, once inserted, will apply pressure to the area near the gland. This is also known as milking your p-spot.
Here’s how I got started
Years ago, I was introduced to this activity by a lady friend. Let’s just say she was A LOT more adventurous than I. We had been dating for only a few months, but were having LOTS of really hot, passionate sex. She was the daring type: I liked that. One night in bed she just brought it up, out of the blue. She was never afraid to speak her mind. That’s what turned me on about her.
She wanted to do something very special for me, as a gift: a prostate massage. I thought about it for a bit, and said “Certainly!” I’ve also chronicled my first experience. Click here to read “The Passion of the Prostate: an Erotic Love Story”.
Of course I had dabbled with anal play, just never my PROSTATE! Little did I know that this first experience would change my life. Once I learned just how satisfying it was, I never looked back. It’s a completely unique type of male orgasm, and it just keeps getting better.
What’s so great about it?
Since it’s a relatively untouched part of the male sexual anatomy, it doesn’t get NEARLY enough attention. Women have their G-Spots. Men have what’s called a P-Spot, or prostate.
Stimulation of this spot brings forth an entirely new type of climax for guys; much different than the traditional orgasm. Most of us are aware that women can have MULTIPLE orgasms, back to back. What we, as men, don’t realize is that it’s possible for us to do the same thing.
This allows us to have the same multi-orgasmic experiences as women. These orgasms are generally much more intense and can last MUCH longer. Almost to the point of physical exhaustion. Now, what guy wouldn’t like that?? To read more about how it feels, click here.
Why YOU should give it a try
Let me tell you from personal experience that this can take your masturbation activities to a completely new level. Regular sex and masturbation are great, don’t get me wrong. Prostate play just opens up new doors of orgasmic nirvana. Do you want to amp up your sex life? Practicing and perfecting this type of massage is the gateway.
From talking to a number of male friends in person and online, I’ve learned one basic truth: A LOT of guys are very uncomfortable with sticking things in their butt. They’re worried it makes them “gay” or less of a man. Horsefeathers, I say! What a man does in the privacy of his own home or with a loved one is his own damn business. If it feels good, then there’s no shame in it. Enjoy your body and the pleasures it can offer.
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