Preparation and massage techniques are important
There is lots of great information on the web about how to CHOOSE a prostate stimulation device. But, when it comes to USING one, there isn’t a lot of good info.
The most common question I get is how to massage your prostate!
So I decided to write a guide of my own! If you’re new to this, then you’ve landed on the right page! Even if you’re an advanced user, you might still find something useful..
For me, the most exciting thing about male P-spot massage is the chance to have…..multiple orgasms.
Yes, you read that right. I’m in it for the multiples. A massage session without several mind blowing orgasms isn’t a disappointment for me, but it could always go better. If you’ve never experienced multiple male orgasms, follow along to see what I do to get the most enjoyment from my toys.
Table of contents
- Multiple male orgasms?
- It’s simply a state of mind
- Allow plenty of time
- Don’t touch your penis!
- A finger is ok. Toys are better.
- ALWAYS use a good lube
- To douche, or not to douche?
- Getting into position
- Put it on cruise control
- Finishing up
Sticking items in your rectum for pleasure does NOT make you gay. Some straight guys even like to experience this with another man. As a hetero male, this seems to be the most common issue that causes men to shy away from prostate play. I was there once. I was THAT guy. And I’ll also say this: I missed out on a lot of good years of sexual bliss because of my irrational fear.
If you’re a younger guy, and this intrigues you, GO FOR IT. Enjoy yourself. It’s your body. You can do whatever the heck you want with it. NEVER feel embarrassed by things that make you feel good.
YES!! Yes they are. Here’s why: orgasm achieved via prostate massage does not result in ejaculation in the traditional sense. Once you ejaculate, you’re done, at least for the time being. This is a result of the refractory period, during which it’s impossible to have more orgasms. All men will experience this refractory period. The time can vary from minutes to hours. I won’t cover the length of time in this article, however, as we have more stimulating things to discuss.
Again, since there is no ejaculation, orgasms can keep coming fast and strong, sometimes within seconds of each other. My personal best is 5 orgasms, back to back, about 20 seconds apart. Now, this didn’t happen overnight. It was the result of months of practice and playing around with different techniques. My point is, if I can do it, so can you. Just be patient.
As men, we’re physical creatures. At least that’s what the rest of the modern world tells us. It’s true to an extent, but our state of mind is an even more powerful barometer of our sexual response.
For me, the only way to get in the proper mode is to relax. This means breathing exercises, relaxing music, etc. In my early days, I’d just pop the prostate toy in there and go to town, hoping for the best. It didn’t take long to learn that if I’m not in the right mood, I can leave that thing in there for an hour or two and NOTHING would happen. Can you say disappointment?!?
Nowadays, I take things much slower. I’m methodical AND deliberate with my sessions.
I like to have AT LEAST an hour of solitude for this. Two is even better. The best time for me is when I’m home alone. This way I know there won’t be any interruptions. No girlfriend walking into my bedroom. No kids screaming outside the door.
My phone and TV get turned off. The lights are turned low. I want this time all to myself. No outside interruptions. I want to focus solely on ME and only me. This is critical for a successful session.
Maybe all this seems like overkill, but it really isn’t. If you can’t devote this amount of time and dedication, just wait until you can. It’s worth it. This is totally different than regular masturbation. Heck, I only need 5 or 10 minutes for that. The lights and TV can be on. I can pretty much do that whenever.
A good p-spot massage session is an entirely different matter. It’s more difficult, but well worth it.
SERIOUSLY, this is the last thing you wanna do when massaging your prostate. It will be extremely tempting. And yes, playing with it during this time will feel damn good. But DON’T DO IT. You risk having an orgasm with ejaculation, and that’s not what you want right now. The last thing you want to do is blow it (hehe, pun intended) and miss out on the rest of your experience.
I’ve used both, and prostate toys are the best way to go if you want the full pleasure experience. Personally, I think fingers are too small. As a tall guy, it’s a real pain in the ass for me to reach around and keep things going with my hand. It’s a physical strain as well as mental. Mentally, I lose focus on the task at hand and that’s just not worth it.
Sure, your fingers are free to use whenever. They don’t cost you a dime. Just make sure those fingernails are trimmed!
It was in my best interest to just spend some money to get the best tools for the job. Seriously, what’s it worth to you to have mind blowing orgasms, whenever you desire? I have a couple hundred dollars invested in my toy and lube collection, and I never felt one bit of buyers remorse for any of it. Quality toys and lubes are expensive, but they will last for a long time.
Think of it this way: after months or years, these costs break down to mere pennies per orgasm. Definitely not too high a price to pay. I’d pay thousands for this type of experience.
Yep, and this should go without saying. There’s no sense in playing unless you have a quality anal lube on hand. It’s also important to be liberal with lube. Don’t be frugal or cheap. Use plenty of it for the best experience. Lube up the toy AND your rectum before you begin. Click here to read about my favorite anal lubes.
As I mentioned earlier, I like to have a couple of hours set aside for the massage session itself. So, before even getting started, I ALWAYS try to have a good bowel movement about an hour before. This will help to get anything cleared out of my bum, reducing the chances of a mess later.
Then, about 20 minutes before I’m set to begin, I’ll take a long, hot shower. I’ll pay special attention to my butt hole, making sure it’s totally clean. The hot water helps me get into a nice state of relaxation, and also helps loosen up those butt and sphincter muscles. The shower is also a good time to get yourself in the mood by rubbing around down there.
Once you’re clean, it’s GO TIME!
This is the million dollar question! No, it really isn’t, but prostate play is MUCH more enjoyable when the ass is clean and fresh. And the best way to make that happen is to use a rectal enema bulb or similar device, and douche that asshole.
I’ll be honest and say that I don’t normally douche, unless it’s a special occasion. If it’s just me having a solo wank, I usually don’t bother because my ass stays pretty clean. As long as I had a bowel movement an hour or two beforehand, I’m good to go.
If, however, I’m massaging with my lady, I like things clean down there. Shitty surprises suck when a partner is involved!
So, should you flush your rectum beforehand? That’s entirely up to you. Just remember that a sparkling clean asshole makes the experience SO MUCH BETTER. Read more about douching, and how to do it, here.
There are various positions one can utilize effectively. Here’s the one that works great for me: simply lay on your bed, on your side. Whichever side you’re laying on, pull the knee on your upper leg (the one on top) up toward your chest. This makes it easy to insert the toy, finger or whatever into your rectum.
Another good position to use is the squat. It’s just like it sounds. This is my second favorite, therefore I don’t recommend it for beginners.
Another good one is also the simplest. Simply lie on your back and pull your feet back toward your butt. With your knees raised and spread apart, it’s easy to access your rectum.
Once you have that first orgasm, it’s a simple matter of maintaining what you’re doing to achieve more. Kind of like hitting the cruise control in your car. Once I hit that first one, it’s smooth sailing. I can usually hit at least 3 or four more within the next 5 or 10 minutes. If I’m REALLY lucky, I’m having too much fun to even count the number. At that point, I don’t care anyway.
Remember how I told you NOT to touch your penis earlier on this page? Well, now is the time to do just that. Once you’ve had your session and achieved your number of orgasms desired, it’s time to come down for the landing. You can now proceed with your normal masturbation routine. Personally, these are the fastest orgasms I can ever hope to achieve. After an hour or more or prostate orgasms, the traditional ejaculation is literally only a few minutes away.
It’s BIG. It’s intense. It’s very satisfying. Be sure to have a towel ready for cleanup. YOU. WILL. NEED. IT. These particular ejaculations are at least twice as big as a normal one.
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