I received a question the other day from one of my readers. After mulling it over for a few days, I thought it would be a great idea to cover it with a quick post.
Here was the question:
“I don’t know why, but i feel guilty about playing with my prostate. Have you ever felt like this before?”
It was touching for me personally, because I’ve been there. I know how it feels to be ashamed. Ashamed to enjoy one of the most amazing sexual experiences a man can have…the big prostate “O”.
Why the stigma?
Here’s my opinion: Society dictates that men need to be manly. And, according to the masses, a real man doesn’t shove dildos and vibrators up his ass to get him off…that kind of guy must be a real pussy. Hell, millions of people think it makes him gay (gasp!) Bullshit…
Intelligent folks like you and me know damn well that anal play has nothing to do with sexual orientation. It’s just kickback from a society that still won’t accept that gay, trans, etc. people are no different from everyone else. They have needs, desires, kinks and passions just like you and me. Straight guys like me can fully enjoy prostate play, just like any other guy.
It reminds me of the old days of Reefer Madness. Marijuana was vilified, and society came up with all kinds of crazy reasons why it’s bad for the public, and harmful to society. People were MADE to feel ashamed and scared of a plant that’s much less harmful than alcohol.
In a nutshell, the mores of society have a powerful impact on our own personal feelings, especially those regarding sexuality.
How I beat my fear of anal play
It happened quite suddenly, to be honest. It was out of the blue and totally unexpected. But it’s a revelation that changed my life.
One evening, after a particularly electrifying experience with my Lelo Billy, it just dawned on me. I realized there’s no shame in doing something I enjoy! Especially when it doesn’t hurt anyone. It’s my body and I can play with it however I damn well choose. And it’s nobody’s business but my own.
Once I came to that realization, my journey of anal play and prostate bliss went into overdrive. I wasn’t afraid anymore. I learned to accept my kink, and even embrace it. Sure, it’s not for everybody. But it certainly works for me!
The bottom line
Who cares if your brother, your best friend, or your next door neighbor thinks anal play is gross. It’s none of their damn business. Maybe they just suck anyway.
It’s YOUR body and YOUR orgasms. Do what feels good.
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