Best Hookup Sites and Apps for Casual Sex

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I think it's time we discuss body count - but wait! Not like all time, or counting all the mistakes you made in college.

Just wondering how many of you have actually used hook up sites and apps for casual sex, and which ones were the best.

Not the best as in looking pretty, but actually led to you having a great one night stand, or girlfriend, or whatever.

Interested in doing an informal survey about hookup sites and seeing which ones have actually worked.

Because a lot of people really are starting to think online dating is a scam or a waste of time, myself included.
 
Let me see if I can recall all the sites I've been on...

Adult Friend Finder: Lots of really sexy ladies on here, curvy and DTF, as they say. Some of them are swingers, some single, some in a situationship, but it's one of the few real sites that actually will get you laid. Ngl, there are some bots and some scammer profiles, but that's every site. There are real women on here and you just have to be a little patient and very talkative to find them.

Pricing: AdultFriendFinder goes by monthly fee, and the default price is 27.95 a month, though you can get it down to 20.95 a month if you sign for 3 months or 14.95 a month if you prepay for a year. Also, the company has bargain plans like Voyeur for 14.99, which gives you more interaction but not unlimited use.

Ashley Madison: I personally can vouch for AM's one night stand capabilities. :giggle::coffee: Very anonymous and discreet environment, which makes it ideal for finding actual ladies who wanna bump but might never want to see you again. (Like that matters, lol) Again, you have to be patient. Ladies join for free here so they take their time sifting through profiles. But it's easy picking because it's full of horny housewives looking for side action. Better for guys who need a little help finding a connection, and getting a dialog started too. The site just makes hookups much easier.

Pricing: Ashley Madison doesn't have a membership fee, but operates on credits. They're about 20-50 cents per credit but will go down when you buy in bulk. Thing is, you can only buy in bulk, so 69$ for 100 credits, 34 cents each, or $299 for 1000 credits at 15 cents each. Better for guys who need a little help, but already got good game.

Flure: New site that promotes fantasy scenarios and personal ads that are anonymous. Even the photos are self destructing so it's very discreet.

Bumble: Men can only speak to a woman after she likes his profile in return. Silences a lot of guys we would not be into. Also has business and platonic mode which is nice.

Fetlife: Really simple site, and yet really complex organization of like 100s of forums and niches. But yeah personal ads all over the place for sex.

Feeld: Great for meeting all sorts of people, LGBTQ, swingers, poly, etc.

Plenty of Fish: Mutual matches, live streaming shows, games, it's a nice little site.

Happn: Fun, because sometimes you match with somebody you met IRL and it feels like serendipity.

Hinge: Usually a brainy woman's goto site for meeting someone who FEELS like a long-term relationship but probably isn't.
 
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Tinder, Hinge, Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel. I pretty much join all the free sites and copy paste my profile and photos. Facebook dating is also worth a look.

Zoosk and AFF also worked for me, but the price tag is not really worth it for me.

And eHarmony works too. I mean, dating a woman who wants to get married will get you laid. Just depends if you want that or not. Because if not, you'll have a bunch of angry exes, you dig?
 
LinkedIn.

Hahah just kidding. Or am I?

I actually like Bumble because of the BIZ and BFF mode. It's kinda like, I might date you later on, but for now I just wanna know if we can be friends and you can be cool about it.
 
I wonder if there's any difference between using regular dating apps like Tinder or Bumble (which have private chat) vs. using live stream dating apps like Zoosk and Plenty of Fish?

I kind of like streaming over private chat. It's less pressure, and it's natural if you use TikTok or Instagram. Dating one on one still feels kind of awkward.
 
I could see that actually. Zoosk and Dating.com and other sites that have live cams, they are really good at introducing people together. They can chat in real time, and girls of course are always the focus of attention. They can get like 100s of visitors watching them, answer questions. If she likes one person they continue on private chat.

I've always heard that women decide within a few moments if they would sleep with you or not. So in theory, Zoosk and sites like that are good for testing chemistry with people face to face.

Online chat is misleading. You might hate the person when you actually meet IRL
 
That reminds me of a pointless story, but one that applies here nonetheless.

I had two friends, separated by states. When I introduced them they really liked each other.

In fact, I'd say they fell into a lustful trance. They were very passionate, and longed for each other. They had phone sex, they made promises, they were the definition of hot and heavy!

And then lo and behold when they met in person, they instantly hated each other. They were annoyed at each other's mannerisms, irritated by their ideological points of view, and couldn't stand each other physically.

Go figure. They saw photos and everything. But chemistry is visual and kinesthetic and even scent and taste related. You really have to meet In Real Life before you know if you two have a chance.
 
In my experience, though I am not really much of an online dater, each hookup app seems to guide you to a different sort of "clientele."

Not every app is going to lead you to Prince Charming or Cinderella. These apps lead you to very different people who all have a unique hookup criteria.

For example:

Bumble: Very bold women, from what I've observed. If a woman likes you, she'll let you know. But they certainly have their "types."

Tinder: It seems like it's a gold rush, but it's more of a slow gold panning thing. Lots of chatters, people who disappear, and people who flirt for fun, nothing more.

Hinge: Reminds me of eHarmony. They say it's casual dating, but I don't get that sense myself. A lot of people there do seem kind of lonely.

OKCupid: Too many younger people their, college age. Very opinionated.

Happn: A fun idea for bumping into people you might have met en route. But all the times I used it, I didn't recognize anyone. Unfortunately.

Plenty Of Fish: Just a big waste of time, unfortunately. No conversations. Some "streamers", just a bunch of people flirting and waiting forever for a response.

Match: Kind of pricey, I was a little surprised that it costs so much and yet doesn't offer that many features.

HER: LGBTQ friendly. But again, kind of a younger demographic.

Grindr: Very welcoming. And they're not all men. Sometimes women or trans show up. Friendly but the people are rather rude and blunt, aren't they?

eHarmony: Probably the best bet going, if you're looking to hook up...and then gradually get into a sexual relationship.

Maybe I am older than the usual 18-35 demographic. I'm in my fifties and widowed, and perhaps not who these apps are designed for. But one of my nieces suggest I give them a try, so I decided to evaluate each other.

For what it's worth, I have never found any women that instantly want to hook up from a photo.

It's more about meeting people, being interesting, funny and charming, and testing the chemistry naturally. No time constraints.

And surprise, a lot of women out there really don't want long-term marital relationships anymore. They just go about hookups, casual sex differently.

Hookups aren't about choosing the right apps in my opinion. It's just choosing the type of people who get you, and you get in return.
 
Interesting breakdown, Yesterday. (Now I kind of picture you as Paul McCartney ha!)

Yes I do notice a certain mentality of guys/girls from these dating apps.

People from Tinder have an attitude. Bumble is a friendlier place, but yes not as needy as Hinge.

eHarmony I think is the best deal if you want a real relationship. Tinder is more like, Hey guys I am hosting a gangbang anyone want to cum? Sorry to be crass, but hey I've wasted hours of my life trying to find a quality hookup date on Tinder, and the men are awful there.

My favorite is Hinge or maybe Bumble. OKCupid I haven't tried that much. I definitely do not want to discuss politics or religion on a date!!
 
Omg, yes, thank you for illustrating how shallow Tinder users really are!

I have to agree that Grindr is almost too indiscriminate. It's like walking into an orgy already in progress. Even though they are "hookups" and casual sex, I still like each time to feel like something special and it IS about connection.

I would favor OKCupid and Feeld, and maybe even Taimi. You really do get what you pay for so to speak. Tinder is easy, and the sex is always creepy or disappointing. (Or never happens)

A site like OKCupid is about connecting with people, and that's why I use it.
 
I can attest that AdultFriendFinder and Ashley Madison do work. I just had to keep fishing for a while.

AdultFriendFinder, basically a site to meet swingers and a few gals in open relationships. Lots of guys on the site so you do have to be competitive and post in the forums, the chat rooms, and basically anywhere women are. It helps to have some really photos up, since this is a Show Me Yours and I'll Show You Mine kind of site.

AshleyMadison is a more of a gamble in my experience. I did meet one woman there and she was pretty hot. And she was married but was kind of a hot mess that I had to break it off with eventually. She was kind of crazy. And I invested money and lots of time in whetting her appetite for sex before anything ever happened. Again, it helps to have some hot sexy photos.

My problem is I have to guess if my nude photos are attractive to anyone. Because if I try to ask my bro friends they're like dude, I don't want to see that!

Same with my lady friends. How do I know if I'm hot or not?
 
You can always try Reddit. They're very honest. Although tbf, you might just post a dick pic and everyone will ignore it and downvote it.

In that case, I recommend paying for an OnlyFans chick to rate yo dick and your newds.

But see, I don't think I need that feedback. I just present my best two faces forward, smile, and show em the good stuff.

Gotta have confidence bro!
 
daydrinkingDave said:
My problem is I have to guess if my nude photos are attractive to anyone. Because if I try to ask my bro friends they're like dude, I don't want to see that!

Same with my lady friends. How do I know if I'm hot or not?
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Sigh. Have you tried just adding recommended friends on Facebook and just sending dick pics to them?

They are very honest on Facebook. And they really don't mind dick pics at all, believe me.
 
Has it ever occured to you boys not to include dick pics at all?

I really only care about a guy's face, and general body area. You don't have to be naked. Just a professional quality photo, preferably a few with at least one smiling, eyes showing. Maybe one shirtless pic so I can check out the abs.

But dick size really doesn't matter and I don't need to see it. If you say you're 10 inches or whatever I believe you. But you better not be lying, just saying...
 
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