Dating advice for women (For a change)

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So this forum has been dominated by the men lately as is typical. I thought it's about time we open the floor to the women posting or lurking here, to offer them some female-friendly dating advice.

What do you think is the biggest problem women face in modern dating?

What are the biggest mistakes women make in relationships?
 
Yes! It is very much a boy's club.

My biggest problem is finding men interested in a serious relationship. And by serious I don't mean long-term or commitment.

I mean a serious connection beyond a one night stand. I like several night stands. A chance to thoroughly explore our attraction and what we "get" from this intense attraction.

But guys don't seem to want to stick around, and that's in spite of the fact that I don't want to settle down. Confusing! That's my problem in dating, confused men who confuse me.
 
eatingLeaves6565 said:
Yes! It is very much a boy's club.

My biggest problem is finding men interested in a serious relationship. And by serious I don't mean long-term or commitment.
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I hear you~!!

My biggest problem is that I don't know what I want, and guys most definitely don't know what I want.

I am dating four different men right now and each one brings along their own neuroses that I find impenetrable.

Like guy one is a younger guy and he mostly enjoys sex. No issues with that! But he has this weird thing where he wants me to tell him that I don't date other men and that I'm only interested in HIM. Meanwhile he does not want to commit to me.

So I'm like hello? Decide what you want.

I'm dating this other guy, this Indian guy, who writes me really nice poetry and sentimental stuff. He works in AI tech. We had sex twice but uh...he doesn't really do it for me. Still, I feel like he appreciates me the most.

I think if I could define a woman's problem in dating today, it would be communicating what we really need from men, and then making them understand it.

Too many missed signals!
 
It's very frustrating when my girlfriends tell me about their relationships and it's always the same problem.

The man in their life is being abusive, or toxic, or controlling, or stubborn.

And it doesn't matter how many times they argue or how many times I tell them they deserve someone better. But they'll agree with me and then go right back to tolerating the same behavior.

And another thing. I am so tired of men's wishy-washy nature.

A guy wants sex but then can't stand the emotional bonding stage, which m means everything to a woman. And then as soon as we make this connection, he backs out.

But in most cases they are not afraid of commitment - they are afraid of talking and communicating. That's what it seems like to me.
 
I know people might get triggered by this but I feel like, if you're a woman who is unhappily single (which most that I know are) you should be willing to listen to a man, and not just get more advice from women.

Ask yourself are the women giving you advice happily married? Are they single and miserable?

Who is your source of wisdom? If what you have tried so far has not worked, it's time to try something else.

So I have some advice on what I think women are doing wrong.

#1: Always be confident

Too many women are trying to be perfect, and they don't seem to understand that men don't want perfection. (I mean counting normal men and not Tom Cruise who custom orders his women from the church of Scientology)

Men want confidence. Don't be insecure. Stifle your doubts. Men admire strong, confident women just as much as women want confident men.

#2: Be a better communicator.

Way too many women think we are mind readers and we are just dumb guys. If something is bothering you come out and say it. If you expect something, say it, don't just pout if we don't do it. This is for dating and in relationships.

#3: Take more of an interest in our lives - it's not all about you.

I know this one is hard to stomach. But I can't tell you how many women I've gone out with who are just interested in themselves, and only ask you questions relating back to her.

These types only care about what you can do for them.

I'm not saying all women, but the ones I dated? Hell yeah!

You want a man to love you, ask questions about his life, passions, goals, and hobbies. Pretend like you give a damn, or actually give a damn. That will go a long way in making him want to marry you.

#4: Don't be too much of a mystery.

Don't play games. Don't be so mysterious that you annoy the guy and he loses interest in you. The only guys who play mind games are assholes. The average guy just wants to know if you like him, end of story. Be authentic and upfront. You want to communicate with men who are logical and simple? Then talk that way.

I'll have more of these later, but that's enough for you to chew on for now.
 
This was not a thread intended for men. This was a thread on dating for women by women.

And even if someone found your recycled Andrew Tate nonsense valuable, your track record of failed relationships would speak volumes.
 
Well, for what it's worth, I think that Dave's list wasn't entirely wrong.

But yeah, the source of information is usually just as important as the content.

That's why authors of dating books always seem to live perfect, scandal-less lives, don't you know? (Except for some notable fails recently, lol)
 
daydrinkingDave said:
#1: Always be confident
#2: Be a better communicator.
#3: Take more of an interest in our lives - it's not all about you.
#4: Don't be too much of a mystery.
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Oooh oooh! Can I add one?

Always be loyal to your husband, even if he says or does something stupid!

I know, I would make a terrible wife. Alas, I'm over it. ;)
 
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