Best hotwife dating sites and apps?

forgetmeNot88

forgetmeNot88

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I gotta admit, one of my bucket list items is to get together with a hotwife and her hubby.

If you're too innocent to get the reference, this refers to sharing a married guy's wife.

Once in a great while you might see a couple on Tinder or a wife talking about her open marriage.

But I've found the best way to do it is to just search hotwife dating sites.

I've tried sites like Feeld but haven't quite met my match. Ideas?

You're blushing! Don't be shy now.
 
Oh my. I believe I lost some innocence just reading your post.

I always thought that was a porn thing. You're telling me people really look for this? For wife-lovers?

What in the world would an ad requesting that read like?
 
Yes. I lost my innocence a long time ago lol

It's definitely real and not just porn, although some of the couples and their bulls do videotape it and create amateur porn out of the experience.

An ad would look something like this:

Looking for a third to join us and F___ my wife while I watch (and possibly join in). Must be 8' + and muscular, with stamina. DDF
 
Good grief. I feel old now. In my day this conversation about someone's wife would get you punched in the face. Now there are dating sites for it.

How would a guy be eight feet tall, anyway? And what does DDF mean? Something to do with dicks?
 
I think he means eight inches. Ahem.

DDF is disease drama free. Meaning the sexual encounter would be quick, easy, no drama, and everyone is tested.

I can't help but wonder if this conversation would be better suited to the hookup room, rather than the dating room. I don't think anyone is looking to date a hotwife.
 
Actually, people do "date" housewives. Most encounters are among friends with benefits, or short-term boyfriend/girlfriend situationships.

Most swinger or poly couples find it hard to locate a reliable third party who is up for play. So they keep track of their favorites and arrange for a booty call.

So yeah there is a whole hotwife dating scene. Guys will take the wife out to dinner, buy her drinks, buy her gifts, and hubby encourages it. 🤪
 
Mostly cucks. Beta males who want to be humiliated, insulted and made to feel inferior to the greater specimen.
 
LOL

Here are some other hot wife dating site ideas:

1. Fetlife

Free site and lots of BDSM and kinkster profiles here, couples, singles, swingers, and poly. Pretty much an anything goes site, but not always easy to find a date.

2. AdultFriendFinder

Probably the easiest site to find a date on, especially if you're a hotwife because there are tons of dudes looking to party. Not as many real women unfortunately.

3. AshleyMadison

Lots of married people here, and supposedly married women are always lurking on here getting in touch with only the guys they want. There's no way to know for sure because they keep everything discreet!

4. Flure

More of a fantasy fulfillment site, with people just posting what they're looking for and people can write back and make it happen.

5. Feeld

Pretty popular poly and swinger site, Tinder style, with couples and singles profiles. Very inclusive and LGBTQ friendly.

6. SDC

Very friendly community of swingers and hotwifers, and some handy features like local hospitality in various cities.

7. Kasidie

Another swinger community and or hotwife fun, with meetup events in person.

8. WifeSwapping

Smaller site that matches together people who wanna swap or just add a third to their union. It's not very community friendly, just a dating app pretty much geared towards couples.

9. Alt.com

Alt is similar to AdultFriendFinder but more into BDSM and extreme kink. If you're into cucking or humiliation, probably a good site here.

I can see why there is a thriving community of non-monogamous people who find it fun and very satisfying.

I can't say I would be OK with trying this out being the jealous type, with my man.

But I do get it. It's all about releasing jealousy and anger and embracing instinct and desire.
 
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Sorry, late to this thread. I won't go into much detail but I have dabbled in this before. 😳

So without any further details, here are my top 7 choices.

1. Ashley Madison

Ashley Madison has a lot of hot wives and regular wives, since it's the most popular married dating site of them all. Something like 75 million people or more, and the most important element is discretion and anonymity. Photo editing software onsite, verified profiles, and other goodies that make your adventure safe.

2. Victoria Milan

Similar to Ashley Madison, but with a different pricing structure (pay per month not in credits) and with extras like virtual gifts. Smaller membership overall, but more members that actually converse, I've found.

3. SwingLifeStyle

One of the largest swinger communities in the world, and "real swingers," not just a bunch of models or bots. The site has swinger chat, pictures, chat rooms, groups, clubs, stories, articles, and parties that you can attend in person to get to know your local swinger community. Hot wives are not exactly swingers, but a sort of offshoot or sect of the swinger lifestyle.

4. SDC

SDC is similar, but maybe not as big as SwingLifesStyle (SLS) but with many of the same features. Local matches, parties, and clubs, meet people traveling to your city, speed dating events, and plenty of articles and guides for first-timers to learn to etiquette. There are also listings of lifestyle friendly businesses. This is not a thing until you try to shop at places that don't understand hahah! That includes everything from BNBs, travel accommodations, and much more.

5. Swapfinder

A more basic swinging and hotwife site, with the ability to find local matches, chat in chatrooms or forums, and just find a partner fast without as much commitment to meeting scores of people.

6. PURE

In my opinion, PURE is even better for hotwives because it's not a big community, or anything like that. It's very much like a personal ad where you just come out and say what you're looking for for one night.

The messages and the ads even disappear after a short time, great for keeping things on the lowdown.

7. Adult Friend Finder

This site used to be higher and it still works...it's just a bit crowded by dudes and by women and couples who never get back to you. Still, forums, chat rooms, blogs and social media posts with nudes, how can you go wrong? Pretty big swinger and hotwife couples population here too.

Anyone else have different success elsewhere?
 
I have to disagree and say swinger sites are not as effective for hotwifing as you might think. Swingers like to share.

And hotwive relationships are one-sided.

Why pay the swinger party fees when you can just use Tinder, Reddit or Doublelist?

Tinder always has couples on there looking for younger, fit dudes. And it's free and as always the couple gets to choose among young stallions.

Reddit has all sorts of subreddits for hotwives, cucks, and wifesharing.

And Doublelist is pretty good for being like old school Craiglist and just letting horny people post whatever they want. (Sniff, I miss old Craigslist man)
 
I was thinking the same thing, Squish. I'm pretty sure I've seen hotwife ads on Tinder and Bumble too.

I'm thinking those sound more like one night stands rather than swinging or poly.

Kind of curious about this myself. Would I as a single guy have better look just cruising Tinder or should I join a hotwife site like...well, I guess SDC, SLS?
 
Well, if you look like Peter Griffin you're probably better off finding a wife and then joining SDC, SLS, or Kasidie.

Single guys...I mean they do score, but they're usually younger, buff and like 8+ inches.

I would give a slight advantage to sites like PURE, Flure, Tinder, etc. because those sites are checked daily and disappear daily.

Sites like SDC, or even AdultFriendFinder are more long-term. You might have to fish a while on AFF or Ashley Madison because they're not really known for their free personal ads.
 
Have you all tried BeyondTwo.com or CuckoldFriendFinder?

I gotta agree with Peter Griffin. PS is your wife is as hot as Lois? Giggity.

It makes sense to download Tinder or Hinge or whatever. But those one time ads for hotwife dating are nothing to bank on. Ninety percent of guys fail, and it doesn't matter how massively big my dick is. Er, not that I'm bragging. It's just playing the odds.

Now if you join a lifestyle site like SDC, or Alt.com/AFF, or even like the other sites I mentioned...

You are more likely to meet a friend who will see your profile, look it over for 2 weeks, think about it, fantasize about it, and then get back to you by week 4 or 5.

Waiting for Tinder doesn't work, not if you're specifically looking for hotwives.
 
I'm curious to know what benefits these lifestyle swinger sites actually offer.

Like SDS SLS and Kasidie. Is it substantial and worth the price?

I would just as soon use a free site like Fetlife or Tinder. Unless you get more from the premium sites.

I gotta say I probably wouldn't attend a Tinder meet and greet. There are some skanky ass people on Tinder lol
 
It's worth it if you are going to use the services of the swinger club multiple times or several times a year, or once a week, etc.

A one time sex romp, probably not worth it.

But like SwingLifeStyle has perks you will never find on Tinder. Stuff like a swinger Bliss cruise, or go to a club that a bunch of other swingers are going to.

Not all clubs allow in single males, but collaborating with the others on a site like SLS would be a start. Also stuff like, get the lowdown on swinger-friendly resorts and hotels, for your next vacation, that sort of thing.
 
Yeah most generic swing or hotwife dating sites will only give you basic perks like messaging, email, live chat, and sometimes video chat.

The chatrooms and forums and groups on sites like AFF are also interesting. It's a good way to virtual mingle.

But Kasidie has some interesting perks.

Members can get "certified" (which is just another word for verified) and actually get status as a Founder, Celebrity, Event Host, Ambassador, Travel Agent, Photographer, Performer, Podcaster, and Partner for certain businesses.

Kind of cool. Oh yes and public or private parties that only select member get, usually those who are mingling and proving themselves to the community.

The Kasidie swinger dating site also has a thing called Rendezvous which is kind of like a swingers calendar as to when you are available to meet up with other people.

Great idea, because most swingers are pretty busy with non-sexual things most of the day and may only have certain days or weekends available.
 
SDC also has some of the best benefits and perks for its members.

Speed Date, which is not just a matchmaker system but you actually get to choose where you meet up. It's like a blind date.

They also host parties and events, theme nights, meet and greets and even GULP orgies!

People can post their schedule and travel info for get together, and there are also bed and breakfast locations that are swinger hot wife friendly.

I also should say, don't go looking for different sites if you're a hotwife couple.

I know they're not exactly swingers, because it's not all shared. But everyone at a swinger's club knows how the hotwife situation works and there will be plenty of guys (even single guys) vetted and ready to stand tall when you pick out your new F buddy.
 
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