How to get a girlfriend

MaybeYesterday778

MaybeYesterday778

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Recently, a younger acquaintance of mine asked me for some life advice.

We were both in the office and he told me all about his crush, the one who got away, he called her. How he suspects she might have feelings for him, and how he should handle the situation.

Being a younger man, he is a bit shy and nervous at the idea of rejection.

I told him it's inevitable that you will be rejected - multiple times in life, and for many other reasons besides romance.

Then I told him, I do think you should ask your crush how she feels. But in case she doesn't feel that way about you, I encourage you to move on. Find someone you are more compatible with. Don't become a lonely depressive, when you are in the prime of your life and have so much to offer.

He begrudgingly admitted he understood what I was saying. Then he asked me how to find a girlfriend, especially because he is neurodivergent.

I told him there is no golden rule or brilliant strategy. It's just a matter of putting yourself out there, making more friends, and communicating your romantic interest, rather than keeping it a secret.

He accepted that.

But I would be curious to know if anyone here has advice on how a person can get a girlfriend, even if they're not that smooth at dating.
 
I am too old to give any modern dating advice.

But one thing I do know is that I am a cowboy poet. And there ain't never been a cowboy who's going to wait for a woman to decide if she wants him or not.

That's not limited to gender either.

If anyone doesn't want you, or isn't sure about you, it's time for you to hit the road.

And find someone who has some use for you. Maybe even someone who adores you and everything about you.

But that's just my two cents.
 
I always tell people if you want to be popular with the ladies, you got to be great at something. Be excellent in her presence.

It's not just about you wanting her.

She wants YOU because something about you is special.

So your lil friend has got to find something. His passion in life, what he's good at, something that inspires him. Because that will be what girls remember about him. They want to be with someone important, someone cool, someone who's more than just a horny dude.
 
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MaybeYesterday778 said:
But I would be curious to know if anyone here has advice on how a person can get a girlfriend, even if they're not that smooth at dating.
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Have you tried making a lot of money?

My father used to tell me in America, first you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the women.

My dad may have been Tony Montana, but still, words are true.
 
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