How to talk to girls and why is it such a thing?

JohnBoy

JohnBoy

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When I was a kid I always had the worst time trying to talk to girls and trying to make conversation.

No one ever really sat me down and told me how to do it either, and I never had a father figure in my life. My mother always told me to just be myself but that never seemed to work.

Eventually I learned how to do it, gain more confidence, and that sort of thing.

Today, I wouldn't say I'm excellent at conversation or a natural gabber. I just kind of swallow my pride and comment on something i observe, and see what kind of response that gets.

Sometimes nothing. Sometimes it works.

I think that's all there is to it. What do you guys think? Anyone ever had a problem talking to girls?
 
I think it depends on how you were raised. I was always surrounded by my mom and my sisters, and their friends. Eventually, or at least I did, I grew to realize that girls really don't respond to men who simp or are too nice or boring.

So not even flirting, but just to be fun and interesting I started teasing them. Even platonic friends or relatives. Not trying to score with my cousins, but why not make it fun?

So I just started doing the same thing with new women I met. Avoided awkwardness, tried to be funny.

I mean we all get rejected, that's just part of life. But I enjoyed my time. Gotta have fun in everything you do, that's the thing.
 
Yeah I know what you mean. I grew up kind of a loner. But I realized that too.

That if I can't even joke around with a girl, and make her laugh, and was stuck up and nervous all the time, well that's nothing she's going to be attracted to. So yeah I kind of manned up and tried to be more of a flirt and tease.

I'm wondering, has anyone ever read a book on it? I once saw this guy's book online where he was selling secrets on how to find a girlfriend, any girlfriend you want.

And I was like uhhh, well I'm pretty sure she has to agree to that. And no man on earth has the ability to just seduce any woman he wants. It's got to be her decision, you know?
 
No, those books are so stupid. They are sensational and a tad misogynistic, at least the ones I've seen advertised.

But I could see why some men have low self confidence and have to psyche themselves into being more outgoing, humorous, charismatic, etc.

So a book would be good for guys who like to read. I never needed one.
 
Yeah I read a lot of different books. I don't remember the names of any of them now. But they helped.
 
I remember trying to read one, never finished it. But the guy talked a lot about what guys are doing wrong. Like some guys never shower or scrub properly and women find that gross. I was like WTF? This is actually in a book? People need to learn basic hygiene? What is wrong with dudes?
 
I never read anything like that.

Just the usual, make no apologies, don't be ashamed of your desires, women do not control me, that kind of cool shit.
 
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