Caning is, on the face of things, a very simple kink. In the world of BDSM, it is accessible, and easy to try – and easy to take to completely new levels.
Despite the idea that caning is simple, it can be layered. It falls under the broader label of ‘impact play’ and sits alongside things like padding.
So, what does caning involve?
In its most basic form, caning is the act of striking, hitting, whipping, thrashing another (willing!) person with a cane, lash or other instrument. Pleasure can be derived from pain, and there is a world of ambiguity to explore while navigating the edges of pleasure and pain.
For some, caning is enough. Whether in the dominant or submissive position, caning can be a delightfully pleasurable and exciting activity in and of itself. But there is also room for using caning to enhance other sexual activity.
Caning during sex or masturbation makes for a completely different experience – and it can be one that is regarded as punishment or reward.
Combined with bondage or restraint, caning becomes even more about power and the balance of play within the room.
Striking with a cane at different times during sex or masturbation, such as just at the moment before climax, produces a combination of sensations that can be challenging and mind-blowing.
You will need to think about the type of cane you want to use. Thin canes sting, while thicker ones thud. You may have a preference, or you may even like to experience both at the same time. The material a cane is made of can have a huge impact on the feelings they produce, and care should be taken not to select something that could splinter – such as bamboo. There are myriad synthetic cane available these days, so play around and see what works best.
Caning care
As caning involves physical strikes, care needs to be taken. In addition to this being an activity that should only be performed with the full consent of everyone involved, having a safe word is important. Struggle, resistance, complaints, screams can all enhance a caning session, but if pain levels become unbearable, or if panic sets in, a safe word can be used to let a partner know that now really is the time to stop, or at least take a break.
Equally important are the areas of the body singled out for attention with a cane. Some body parts are much more sensitive than others; fleshy parts of the body are the safest, but anywhere that flesh is thin, or where bone or joints can be felt is likely to cause extreme pain, and even long-term damage.
The power used when administering a caning needs to be carefully gauged. It is easy to get lost in the moment and strike too hard, or to strike the same place too many times. A pleading for mercy can be arousing for a dom, but this is where safe words are important. As well as agreeing a word that means play needs to stop, it is also worth having a conversation about words or phrases that can be used in a caning session that allow the sub to request harder or softer strikes without having to break the flow.
When using a cane, listening – and to a large extend looking – is extremely important. Pay attention to what is happening to your partner and notice if they recoil or wince more than seems comfortable. Feedback and dialogue are vital so things don’t go wrong. These are beatings for pleasure.
But caning is fun. Caning is sexy. Caning is beautiful.
To receive a caning is an honor; to deliver one a privilege.
Revel in it. Enjoy.
