Urethral sounding: a KINKY guide for beginners

Five years ago, heck, even a year ago, if someone told me that I’d find pleasure with urethral sounding, I’d have laughed in their face.

Times change, though…

Recently, a good friend of mine, who is into S&M, told me about this awesome yet slightly taboo pleasure. It involved inserting a slightly curved metal rod into my penis. Since he knew i was a kinky guy, he thought I’d really enjoy it. He explained to me what it was and gave some suggestions for where I could get my own sounds.

So I tried it. He was wrong. I didn’t like it. I LOVED it. Here’s my story.


So what is urethral sounding?

It’s sometimes referred to as penis or cock sounding or stuffing. This is when you take a metal rod, called a sound, and slide it into your urethra.

People use it for both pleasure and pain. Once you get used to it, you can easily accomplish both. Personally, I’m not into the pain thing.

Here’s my personal experience: when inserted, it makes my penis very sensitive and responsive to external stimuli. For example, a light brushing of the hand across my erect member feels magnified. Even more intense is light masturbation with the rod inserted. When I say light masturbation, I mean applying a very light grip with a hand and slowly stroke up and down.

It’s unique. It’s misunderstood. It’s a bit taboo. But it’s a lot of fun! And remember, kinky masturbation is NOTHING to be ashamed of.



Table of contents

  1. Sounds vs. Plugs. There IS a difference.
  2. Three things I learned about sounding
  3. The tools (sounds) you need.
  4. Penis Plugs. Similar but different.
  5. Use plenty of the PROPER lube.
  6. How to do it.
  7. When it’s over.
  8. Cleaning up.



This guide covers the basics for safe play

Keep in mind that this guide is designed with the beginning cock sounder in mind. I’ll provide my personal experiences, and make suggestions based on my experience as a complete beginner. Kinda like Sounding 101.

Yes, there are a thousand different implements and methods for sticking things in your penis. But in this post, I’m mainly concerned with keeping things safe, yet fun.


Hegar 8 piece set for urethral sounding

Here’s my first set. Some stainless Hegars. High quality AND inexpensive!


1. Penis plugs vs. Sounds

Before we go any further, it’s important to understand the difference between sounds and plugs. The terms are sometimes used interchangeably, but they are quite different in form and function.



  • Both are used in urethral play
  • Both are inserted into the tip of the penis
  • Both can enhance sexual pleasure


  • A penis plug is meant to be worn during sex and masturbation activities, kind of like jewelry. Some are solid, and some are hollow, to allow urine and ejaculate to pass through.
  • Penis plugs are usually shorter and sometimes have ribs or notches to keep them from slipping out.
  • Urethral Sounds are primarily longer (sometimes long enough to reach the bladder) and generally smooth.
  • Sounds can be moved in and out while playing. Kind of like massaging the inside of the penis. Kinky! Only use small, gentle strokes.


A urethral sound on the left. A hollow penis plug on the right.



2. Three things that I learned about sounding

1. Urethral sounding feels pretty awesome, once I got some practice and overcame the “ewwww” factor. It was primarily a mental block that kept me from truly enjoying this activity, not a physical one.

2. I’m willing to try almost anything sexual, and cock stuffing rates a solid 10 out of 10 on my personal kink scale!

3. The cost of entry is very low. For less than $30 US, I got an entire set of stainless steel sounds and some lube. Penis plugs can be purchased for less than $15 US.



3. The stainless steel sounds

The urethral sounding rods themselves aren’t always curved. Some are straight, some have bulbs on the end, some are S-shaped, etc. I recommend straight or slighly curved rods for the beginning sounder.

When you’re ready to make a purchase, make sure to shop around (Amazon is a great place to start) to see what is out there and what you might be interested in using. Dittel, Hegar, Pratt and Rosebud all make respectable products. I went with Hegar, based on the positive reviews and comparatively low price.

Sounds often come in sets and are fairly affordable. A good starter kit and some lube can be had for less than $30 US. My set below was $20 US. A great deal for stainless steel, in my opinion. I bought my Hegar set (the one you see below) from Amazon. Here it is.


Urethral sounding rods

Here’s Hegar set, with zipper storage case.


With that said, only use devices that were made for this type of sexual pleasure! Stainless steel is the best, most durable material you can use.

There are also silicone and plastic ones floating around on the market, but I suggest that beginning sounders stay away from these. Along with durability issues, the material could be porous, making it difficult to sterilize between uses.

And, for heaven’s sake, NEVER use a glass utensil! This includes thermometers. Not only do you risk getting shards of glass stuck in there, mercury in the urethra doesn’t sound like much fun either.


CAUTION: An accident with a non-stainless steel sound could be hazardous to your health in a variety of ways.

First and foremost, the tissue that lines your urethra is incredibly sensitive and can tear easily. If you use a sound the wrong way, you can tear the urethral wall. Don’t do this!

The pain will be excruciating and, because of the tear, you open yourself up to infections and other complications.


4. Penis plugs, stainless is best

As I mentioned earlier, these are a bit different from sounds. They perform a similar function (sexual pleasure), but they are designed to be inserted, and then left in place. Kind of like shiny jewelry for your cock!

The designs and styles available are almost limitless. Some are completely smooth. Others have ridges, like mine below. Some come with an included ring that fits over the glans. This holds it safely in place. These prices range from $5 on up. Like real jewelry, the sky is the limit.


hollow penis plug

My stainless steel penis plug. Looks naughty, right? Notice that the surface has ridges and notches. This keeps the plug from slipping out during activities. It also has a hole that goes all the way through, to let ejaculate and urine pass.


I bought this plug from Amazon as well. See it here.

The main benefit of using a plug is that it makes the penis more sensitive. Some men experience harder erections and more intense orgasms. Kinda like the ones I have when enjoying my Fleshlight Girls, here.

I’m one of the lucky guys. Even in fourties, my erections are hard like diamond when I have one of these stuffed in my erect penis. The orgasms are certainly more intense. And when I cum, it definitely shoots farther as a result of the narrower, hollow orifice. Since my girlfriend is a total cum slut, this is a win-win for both of us.

Penis plugs are perfect for beginners, especially if you’re on the fence regarding urethral play. For less than $15, this is a great way to stick your toe in the water and see if this masturbation activity is your cup of tea. If not, no big deal…and you’re not out much cash. If you end of loving it (like me), you can take the next step and grab a full set of sounds.


5. Lube up!

Lube is VERY important when sounding. When choosing a lube, stay away from those with glycerin in them, as the sugar component in these lubes can cause UTIs.

I initially thought about using one of my favorite prostate massage lubes, Passion. Upon reading the ingredient list, I realized it contained glycerin. No go. So I picked up some SurgiLube and I was ready to go.


Pro Tip: don’t use saliva!

Saliva is also not an optimum lube. Not only can it cause UTIs, but it can dry up and cause irritation and pain. Friction is the LAST thing you need when sliding a metal rod in and out of your dick.


6. How to use your sounds

The process itself is quite simple. The main thing being that if you feel pain or extreme tightness or pressure, stop. There may be scar tissue or other blockages and you don’t want to run the risk of tearing something in there.

Before doing anything, make sure your urethral sounding rods are clean and sterilized. You can sterilize your sounds in boiling water (boil for thirty minutes or so) and, when you’re ready to start, make sure your penis and your hands are both clean.

If the sounds (or hands) end up touching something not clean, you run the risk of inserting whatever bacteria it may be into your body. Wash again and start over.

Once the implements are cleaned and cooled to a safe temperature, you’ll want to lube the sound as well as the area around the penis hole. Slowly let the rod slide into your urethra, pushing gently to ease it in. The first few times it may take some time to get used to the sensations and feelings. The key is going slow.

Once you get used to the size and the feeling of something inside your dick, you can begin to experiment a little bit by switching up the size of the sound or even rotating it while inside you. This is one of my personal favorite things to do!

When it comes to size, I recommended that you start at a size larger than the smallest one until you become comfortable with the process. A smaller sound could lead to puncturing or other damage when you are not as sure-handed as you might be eventually. This is why I started with the second smallest one, second from right in the Hegar set below.


Urethral sounds made by Hegar

Hegar 8 piece set, in case. I commonly use the 2nd through 4th ones from the right. The first one is too small. And the rest are just too darn big for me!



7. When it’s over, urinate

After urethral sounding is over, you may also feel a burning sensation when you urinate, which is caused by the irritation of the urethral wall by the sound. (If you’re into S&M, then this might be something right up your alley.) This is normal and usually dissipates quickly enough.


8. Finishing up your session

When you are done, it’s very important to thoroughly wash the implement and also to urinate so as to clear out the urethra. If you are using sounds with multiple people—sounds can play into many different S&M scenarios—the cleanliness of your sound is of even greater importance. Improperly cleaned tools, when shared, can lead to a host of STIs.

Are you a guy over the age of 50? If you’re having problems with your prostate and/or urination, it might be time to consider a supplement, like these.



So those are the basics! Now you have all the tools necessary for a clean, fun and safe sounding experience.

The second part of this post continues right here, where I describe my first time cock sounding. It’s hot!




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Author: Dave

Hi, I'm Dave. And I'm a....sex fiend?!? No, not really. But, Kinda :) Actually, I'm just your average white collar guy who happens to have a soft spot for sexy WOMEN and HOT sex toys. Hence, these are my chosen topics for this blog. I'm fluent in 3 languages: English, Profanity and Sarcasm. I own a number of male sex toys, and my personal "toybox" is growing rapidly. But prostate toys are my favorite. So, enjoy the ride, and drop me a line if you have something to say!

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  1. I began sounding a little over a year ago. An ex who knows I’ll try just about anything sent me a link on it. I ordered set of rods & since I’m a horny SOB I was hooked immediately. Currently I’m using a 15mm rod comfortably & can get a 16mm in but it’s snug. I enjoy keeping my urethra as sensitive as possible so I wear a 15mm cork screw plug when I’m not sounding. It stays really snug, I can piss, j/o, cum & even fuck while I’m wearing it. I have found its best not to get too rough or I’m pretty sore the next day. Precum has always been plentiful & at times a little embarrassing. Most guys I’ve been with don’t seem to mind but since I began sounding it seems to have increased. Hence the need for wearing a plug otherwise I would need a pad.

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  2. First of all: thanks for sharing. It’s very valuable information on a topic that it can be a bit hard to fint good information on. Thanks!

    I just did my first sounding with a hagar 5mm. I used a lube that has “propylene glycol” in it and after reading your blog I’m afraid that that is equivalent to the glycerin, you’re talking about that can cause UTI. Does anybody know if that’s the same?

    Also, I have had that exact burning feeling when urinating. How long did it continue to hurt when urinating after you guys did it the first time? It’s 10 hours ago since I did it and I still feel a little sore/tender with a pressure like sensation in the area of my penis that is a bit hard to locate.

    Another thing I am curious about: do you experience any different sensations in your penis after having begun with sounding? Does it behave differently – hard or non-hard? Has it changed how it feels to penetrate someone? Has it changed anything in your everyday life?


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  3. I got into SOUNDING about 2-3yrs ago – tried it – and then -put it away- then my other half went away to rehab for 4months – so I had the house to myself….discovered a lot of things….but LOVE SOUNDING ..its one of those feelings you CAN’T explain unless you do IT……..AMAZING! I told my other half about it – went he got out of rehab – he was NOT into it – and kinda made me feel -weird/ashamed- about it……so I’ll have to do it – on my OWN, in the meantime I’m trying to find a SOUNDING Bud….NO sex just sounding partners / Men who enjoy it……..Needless to say – I had a hard time even finding THIS discussion…..so I continue….. SNJ/Philly area

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    • I do it a lot, used chrome steel fabricated sounds, small to large (3/16″-3/8″0 tubing, purchased a set of beginner silicone sounds, hooked a heavy duty waxed string to them about 16″ong and work them in to my bladder. I also have a 1 gallon bladder flushing kit that uses a 3/8″ tub. spend a couple of hours doing tthis when I can.

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  4. I have been extremely shy about my tabboo kink for ages and seeing articles like this make me feel a ton better. I love having it done to me and I’m glad I’m not alone.

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  5. Share with your partner. Sounding is a huge turn on. To insert the sound for him and watch it slide inside is so erotic. It is nice to think he is getting an idea of how I feel. And playing with his cock, balls, perineum and prostate and watching the ecstasy on his face, is an enormous turn on. I don’t know why any guy wouldn’t want to at least try it. After years of being married to my husband our sex life is never better and this type of exploration is what everyone needs. Any skeptic out there hiding it from their wife, don’t. I know I love it. Just a small recommendation from my guy… as your partner slips the well lubed sound in, get her to lick the outside of his cock, following the track of the urethra the whole way down, and then after the sound is in place, a gentle blow job is apparently amazing. Keep up these great articles. Us women love to know what turns guys on.

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  6. I have a set of silicone sounders(still a bit new) and I follow what you say about being clean as well as the sounders. The sounder still is being pushed out natuealy, will there come a time when it stays in by itself? How often should one use a sounder?

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  7. Hi! I’m thinking of trying urethral sounding and found your page. Pretty nice review and intro. I learned a lot!
    I dont understand why it’s “male” masturbation. There are lots and lots of women and non-binary folks out there who might enjoy urethral sounding too 🙂

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  8. Dave,

    I got interested in sounding after a prostate procedure and had to self catheter for awhile. The feeling was so good did some research and found out about sounding. Order a set of Hager sounds and a silicone one. Started at 7/8 and within 2 days went to 9/10. I can now completely insert a 13/14 all the way, this is probably it. What a feeling. I have since purchased a 10mm x 12 inch silicone which can be inserted all way into bladder and left there all day. Have just started using a 10 inch Tens/EMS sound, what a turn on

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  9. I purchased the sounding kit you linked to, and it just arrived!
    Rusted and chipped… bummer. Hopefully I can get these returned, but I don’t think these are surgical steel. Evidently, this isn’t the first time it’s happened with this seller.
    I own a Master Series Invasion kit that I got from work, but those are still a bit too large.
    I was hoping to avoid paying $80 for a kit, but I may have to.

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    • Oh wow, sorry to hear that about your sound set. Mine has held up phenomenally.

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      • It probably sat too long and the chromium wore off on that side. These items don’t tend to move off shelves as fast as others.
        I’m trying to find a titanium set, with no luck.
        I work in the adult toy biz, so if I can found trusted manufacturer, I’ll try to carry them there as well. As it is, what beginners should be starting with runs pretty high, and I worry a customer getting something too big and forcing it.
        Any suggestions?

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        • I wish I had additional advice regarding sounding sets. Mine has held up quite well, hence it’s the only set i own.

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  10. Just got my first set of the Hegar rods and couldn’t wait to try them. Started on the second size but immediately switched to the third and it slid down like a dream. OMG the feeling and sensation was amazing and unlike anything I have ever experienced before… I’m still tingling now, and am already getting hard thinking about my next time… THANKYOU!

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    • yes i just started sounding myself and fuck it’s great what a feeling.
      i can’t believe that i missed out so long. i order a set of silicone and can’t wait to get them. it’s lucky to be able to have others understand the practice of sounding. just love it. thank you.

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      • This is a wonderful guide. Thank you for creating it. My boyfriend and I are planning to try out the Hegar set.

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  11. Is that painful? I can’t imagine my pen*s filled with that long metal :/

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    • Just go slow and lube up well, and it’s all good

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    • As a newbie I couldn’t wait to try it… It wasn’t painful at all, and the feeling was out-of-this-world (in a good way)

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  12. Hi, is it better to insert the rod with an erection or when it is soft?

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    • I usually just do it when I’m flaccid. It probably doesn’t matter either way, just take it SLOW

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  13. Hi!
    My boyfriend and I have been doing sound play for a few months now and we both enjoy it greatly. The sounds were his idea but he’s not into big time S&M like I am. So being tied up or choked isn’t something he’s up for. With that being said, I’m looking for advice or ideas on how to make sounding even more intense for him. He’s not bored with it by any means but nothing turns me on more than pleasuring him. Hoping someone could share some fantasies with me so I can try them! Thanks!

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    • From a recent convert, try an introduction to perennial massage and blow job while sounding. If that goes well introduce first external anal stimulation right at the sphincter by running and then gently fingering and then later slowly progress to inserting a tiny finger while sounding(lots of lube). If that goes well put in another finger and let him adjust. Before you know it you can suggest that someone who had tried these things had said he can achieve the most mind blowing orgasm by pegging. I’ve been on the receiving end of a strap-on -me strapless dildo(used with an aslan leather harness)leading to mind blowing multiple orgasms for both partners and it’s changed my preference from wanting Penis in vagina sex to only wanting to be pegged and not even caring about traditional PIV sex. Straight male here. With an open mind you can open up to amazing sexual pleasures! Good luck!

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  14. I have the same problem at the tip of my penis once I get past that I am ok I sound for a few hours but it always seems to çlose back up I can do a Severn mm with ease I have been as high as a nine mm but to painful so gone back to the Severn also had a little blood whilst doing it but soon goes away

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  15. I’ve been Sounding for 8 or 9 years now. Just got my 5th set. I have many individual ones as well.
    When I was looking for a subject for my new Twitter page last year I was shocked when I see how few and far between and good sounding vids were. So I stepped it up and have tweeted more than 3000 vids of different guys sounding.
    It’s given me the opportunity to chat with guys on every continent and hear and sometimes see their efforts and share my experience with them.
    Sounding has become something not so taboo as it once was. Guys share with me their successes and failures.
    I try to keep the subject pure so I don’t have any extraneous vids on my page.
    Sounding is a legitimate pastime that many guys and some gals enjoy. It’s safe when done properly and something that can be shared with a friend as well.
    Try it. You won’t know what your missing until you do!

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  16. I just started with the smallest Hager Sound. Experienced some resistance just beyond the head. Pushed on slowly. Finally it slid all the way in.
    Why did I have a dark red blood bleed? There was about 2-3 tablespoons of blood. A day later I am still getting a little blood when starting a stream of urine. No pain. Enjoyed it. Am looking forward to bigger and better sounding.
    I used rubbing alcohol to clean the sounds for first use. Am seeing boiling the sounds from 5 to 30 minutes. What’s enough to kill the bugs?
    Any suggestions when continuing using the set?
    Thanks in advance for your replies.

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  17. An update wit the pain of the larger ones, I found on another site to use Orajel, that does stop the pain and allows you to enjoy that sensual feeling.

    I still want to find a way to permanently increase the diameter

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  18. I have the set and I can’t get passed the third size. The end of the penis doesn’t stretch open enough to get a larger size in. I use plenty of lube.
    What is the best way to stretch without pain?
    I can get the full rod in. I have wait a couple of minutes for the pain to go away after the large one goes in. I want to go larger.
    I haven’t been able to cum but I would like to.
    Any ideas?

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    • To be perfectly honest, I can’t get past the third size either. TOO DAMN BIG! I tried it a couple of times but just couldn’t handle it. Sorry but I can’t offer any suggestions except practice, practice, practice.

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      • I went for the UK S/steel, similar to yours. The smaller ones looked too thin so went straight to 6mm. Slid in by itself as did 7mm. 8mm was a bit tight, but practice saw it soon dropping in.
        9mm now is a snug fit altho doesn’t drop but feels sooooo good. Working on 10mm which will eventually slide/drop, hopefully.
        A question, does this process of increasing the size of the sound actually make the penis fatter? Mine feels a bit more rotund these days.

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      • use a rosebud type sound. then plenty of surgical lube. Start by placing the sound in the opening and slowly twist it while applying gentle pressure. In fact gravity should be enough. It helps if your cock and balls are tied so you have a great hardon sticking straight up. Lay on your back. The best would be if you had a partner hold the sound and do this to you.

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    • I am on the 4th size, 9-10mm. On looking at my slit, I dont think any more than 11mm will fit. I can get 11 in about 2cm deep but that is where the first “barrier” seems to be and that seems to be the main obstruction. I guess practice and patience is the key.

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  19. curious…..can use sounds while in chastity(cb6000)?

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    • Ya know, I have never tried that. I would be hesitant to do so, though. I wouldn’t want anything to constrict or move things the wrong way.

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  20. I prefer the Van Buren sounds. When I first got some, I was intimidated by the curve.
    I found that it is almost impossible to insert when your cock is hard, but when soft, the curve goes in easily, and once it reaches the pubic bone, seems to go of it’s own accord on into the prostate/bladder.
    Once it is in, I find I can (carefully) stand up, and it will stay in place for as long as I wish. I do have men come so I can suck their cocks, and I enjoy having just the grip end of the sound sticking out of the end of my cock when I meet them at the door, or greet them outside in warm weather. Those who are unfamiliar with sounds, are amazed when they see how much steel I remove from my cock when it’s their turn to suck me. My cock does get hard when I am sucking them, with the sound inside of my cock.

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  21. I started using rosebuds about 9 years ago, I was hooked instantly. Now I make my own and my favorite is a 10 inch bar about a half inch round, during sex it gets forced out with contractions and then pushed back in by the vagina. My orgasms went from lasting around 40 seconds to well over 2 minutes and they are INTENSE!

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  22. I use the Hagars too and they are the best way to start. I also use some other single rods that are smooth and wavy and are longer than the 8″ Hagars and also have a ring at the end to avoid over insertion. However, I sometimes even remove the ring so that I can slide it all deeper still and make it disappear completely (don’t worry…your urethra is curved and there’s no way a 10″ steel rod is going to get very far in you and it can easily be forced out using your kegle muscles). REWARD: There is a special “spot” just past a little bump caused by your hip bone that ushers you into the area that’s surrounded by the prostate. THAT’s where it really gets pleasurable, and masturbating to orgasm there will blow the top of your head off! Cumming with a 10″ sound in your rock hard dick is just indescribably pleasurable. Other guys just don’t know what they’re missing and aren’t getting some of the full potential of their dicks. Too bad for them. BTW: It’s not a “gay” thing to do…straight guys will love it so there’s no shame in it.

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    • I cant find this spot. I got to the bladder and tried to jiggle to the prostate but have trouble locating it. Using 8″ sounds. I get to where I can locate the prostate externally, but then cannot adjust my sound to reach that spot. Frustrating.

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  23. Hey Guys,
    Ive been sounding for about a year and like your article says I too was kinda freaked out but being a freak I wanted to try. Its so intense. I imagine its what it must be like to be fucked only slower
    And deeper, I lube it and let gravity do the rest. It slides down to my prostate and stops if im hard then it slides past to my bladder. I stop there and begin a slow in and out until I cant stand it and its over. I blow a huge load every time. Have tried to go up in size but love the middle size as it is thicker on one end and i cant switch ends. Love it! Thanks
    Letting me share

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  24. My first experience was with the pratt brand today and I started with the smallest one and ended up going to the 4th rod and it felt awesome. I like the heavy weight of the pratt sounds they almost insert themselves so there is no danger of forcing it in. The only advice i would give other than already stated above about starting small and working up is to just go ahead and get some surgilube online. the lube I used caused a little burning after I played. use the surgilube!

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  25. I use hagars, but have recently started using silacon stretchers and they are making moving up in size easier. Rght now I am using 13.5 mm bt 8 inches. Plus rhey are cum through, so they are fun to stroke off with them in.

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