You’re in a long distance relationship and think you’re going to have to give up on sexy times… Well, I’m here to tell you that’s not the case! Long distance sex toys are a great way to connect with your loved one.
It’s not easy to stay connected when you’re physically apart. Being unable to touch your partner for weeks or even months on end can really strain the intimacy of any relationship.
Technologies like Skype and other video chatting programs can help. On the other hand, what if we told you there was a way you could actually make your partner cum no matter how far away they were?
With advances in teledildonics, long distance sex toys are finally becoming a reality!
Keep reading to find out the basics, how to bring them up to your partner, and to see some of our top picks.
- The Best Long Distance Sex toys
- What Long Distance Sex Toys Are
- Who Should Try Teledildonic Toys
- The Downsides to Teledildonics
- How To Talk To Your Partner About It
- The Future of Long Distance Sex is Now
The Best Long Distance Sex toys
Kiiroo Onyx +
The Kiiroo Onyx + is a hands-free male sex toy with a seriously nice set of features, and one of the best sex toys for long distance. It’s designed to give you an intense masturbatory experience and offers expansive connectivity options.
It’s built around a system of 10 contracting rings with a silicone sleeve at its core. The rings squeeze and release at a variety of speeds and intensities to simulate the feel of sex or a blowjob.
They’re able to create 140 different movements a minute for an amazing set of sensations. In the meantime, you can either sit back and let it do all the work or thrust into it as the rings do their thing.
The device itself is small and discreet, with a rounded shape that gives it a sleek look. The main body is made from silicone, which makes it soft and comfortable against your skin. There are also two protruding buttons on the side of the device – one controls power and pairing, while the other turns vibration on or off.
The exterior is a nondescript black. As a result, it’s the perfect size to pack away in your bag when traveling or store in plain sight at home. It runs off a lithium-ion battery that gives you an hour of play on a full charge.
The connectivity features are what really set the Onyx + apart. You can pair it to your smartphone or computer via bluetooth and hook it up to all kinds of interesting play.
For long distance play it connects to either another Kiiroo toy, male or female, or can simply be controlled by the FeelConnect app. This way you can also pair it with regular or VR porn and connect with your favorite cam girls.
- Intense range of sensations
- Reasonable battery life
- Easy to clean and care for
- Lightweight and portable
The We-Vibe Chorus is the latest addition to the We-Vibe line of couples toys. The Chorus is a remote-controlled vibrator, which means that you can control the intensity and speed of the vibrations from anywhere in the room or the world. This makes it a great toy for long distance relationships or for couples who like to play games during sex.
The We-Vibe Chorus is a vibrating toy designed to provide clitoral and G-spot stimulation all at once. It’s a cute little toy built in a u shape out of soft and durable silicone. The unique shape allows you to slip the larger vibrator inside yourself while still easily nestling the outer end against your clit. It can be controlled either from the toy, with a remote or with the easy to use We-Connect smartphone app.
It’s one of those toys that really can do everything. You can use it alone or with a partner, wear it while out and about, or even use it to add stimulation during sex.
The We-Vibe Chorus comes with two different types of charging bases: one for USB charging and one that uses a wall plug adapter. The USB cable is also included with purchase, so you don’t have to worry about buying a separate one if you want to charge your toy while using it. You’ll need to make sure that you have charged the device at least once before using it, but once it’s fully charged (about 2 hours), you should be good for at least 3 hours of play time.
We love that this toy is waterproof, which makes it easy to clean and use in any setting without worrying about damaging your toy! It’s also made from body safe silicone material and features high quality components inside so there’s no risk of overheating or malfunctioning as long as you follow instructions on cleaning
- Clitoral and G-Spot stimulation
- 100% waterproof
- Can be worn during public play
- Fully rechargeable with long battery life
- Controllable via remote or a bluetooth app
The Kiiroo Keon is a collaboration project between Kiiroo and Fleshlight, yes, that Fleshlight.
It’s unique among sex toys in that it actually moves on it’s own.
The Keon is basically just a motorized base. You fit your Feel stroker inside it and set it to run at whatever speed and intensity you like.
It’s awesome on its own but where the Keon really shines is when you pass control to your partner. By connecting it to Kiiroo’s FeelConnect app you can let them take full control of the experience.
You can video chat with them as they adjust the speed and pattern of vibrations or pair it with certain toys. This lets your Keon be controlled by the movement and intensity of their own play.
The only real downside of the Keon, aside from price, is its size. It’s one of the biggest sex toys you’ll see out there making it a bit more difficult to use and store.
- Gives actual thrusting action
- Long battery life
- Can be controlled by app or paired with other toys
- You can switch out the stroker within
Lovense Lush 3
The Lush was one of the most successful products Lovense has produced,and another pick for best sex toys for long distance. The Lush 3 is an updated version that corrects the few problems the original had while keeping its spirit alive.
It’s a vibrator that is made to be controlled by your partner. It’s not the only toy like this on the market, but it is one of the most popular and well-known ones. I’ve wanted to try one for a while, so when they sent me one to test out, I was really excited!
The Lovense Lush 3 is designed to be worn during sex, or at least just before it begins. It’s a small vibrator that can be inserted into the vagina or anus of either partner or both partners. The vibrator itself has two motors: one in the tip of the toy and another in the handle end. That means there are two vibration patterns available: one for each motor. The handle end of the toy can also be used as a remote control if you want to give your partner some control over what happens in bed (or wherever).
The packaging is pretty simple: it comes in a small box with pictures on it (no nudity). Inside there’s a smaller box containing the actual toy, which has its own storage bag inside as well as instructions (which aren’t necessary if you already have experience with similar toys).
It’s an insertable vibrating egg that can be controlled either via remote control or with a smartphone app. This opens up all kinds of fun play options for kinky couples. You can have your partner wear it out while you’re together or wear it in while you watch.
The Lush 3 has a powerful vibrator that you can adjust manually or program to run on patterns. One really cool feature is the ability to set up voice triggers.
It’s crazy how hot it is watching your partner’s eyes glaze over a little just from your voice.
For couples in long distance relationships the ability to pass control to other phones is the key feature. You can enjoy playing together as they watch you slowly build to orgasm, controlling every teasing touch.
- Intense vibrations
- Long battery life
- 100% Waterproof
- Suitable for public play
- Can be controlled via voice commands
- Nearly silent
What Long Distance Sex Toys Are
A long distance sex toy is a sex toy that allows you to have sex with your partner or someone you like even if they are not present with you. In other words, it is a device that allows you to get pleasure from being close even when you are far away from each other.
It is any kind of sex toy designed for remote control. A common type of remote control vibrator is the We-Vibe Chorus (shown earlier in this post). It comes in two parts — one that goes inside the vagina and one that sits outside it — and they’re connected via Bluetooth so they can be controlled from anywhere.
The key difference between your run of the mill vibrator or Fleshlight and a long distance sex toy is a field called teledildonics.
We’ll spare you the sciency talk and just say that teledildonics is about using robotics and the internet to let you fuck or be fucked no matter how far you are from your partner.
These are battery powered vibrators, plugs, and male masturbators designed to connect via bluetooth to your smartphone. From there you can take control of your partner’s toys or let them run wild with yours!
They’re great for play during steamy video chat or to just let your partner know you’re thinking about them. Some toys are even designed to simulate what your partner is feeling on your toy.
Who Should Try Teledildonic Toys
The people who can benefit the most from teledildonics are those in long distance relationships.
When you frequently spend long periods of time away from your partner, intimacy can become really difficult to achieve.
Being able to actively participate in your partner’s orgasm, even while thousands of miles away, is a great way to bridge that gap. You can still share in play regularly without having to be in the same room.
Some of the groups most likely to enjoy sex toys for long distance:
- College students on different campuses
- People who travel frequently for work
- Military spouses
One thing that really makes teledildonic toys great is how flexible they are.
The male versions are pretty much just good for at home play, but the plugs and vibrators open up all kinds of fun possibilities.
Just about anyone can figure out a way to have fun with things like remote control vibrators, butt plugs, and cock rings. You can take your partner out for a little public play and enjoy that look of intense arousal over coffee.
Another really neat feature of many bluetooth capable toys is the ability to pair them with toys, or even with cam girls.
You can also learn about each other’s fantasies. When you’re in a long-distance relationship, it’s easy for your partner to feel like they don’t know what makes you tick anymore. These toys allow both partners to share their fantasies with each other, which gives them an insight into what turns each other on so much more than just words alone could ever do!
The Downsides to Teledildonics
There’s really only one major downside to long distance sex toys:
Just about any toy worth owning is going to run you over $100. If you want something really nice you should expect to spend twice that or more.
For that though, you get really high end features. These include:
- Body safe silicone construction
- Highly adaptable play options
- Huge levels of intensity and vibration
- Smartphone pairing options
You’re spending a pretty penny but getting a really nice toy in exchange. Definitely worth it under the right circumstances.
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How To Talk To Your Partner About It
Asking your partner to use any sex toy can be a nerve wracking conversation under normal circumstances. Bringing up a toy specifically to be used together while apart adds a whole other level of potential weirdness.
By following these simple tips you’ll be off to a great start however you decide to start the talk.
Sex is something incredibly intimate. It can be really hard to tell your partner that your needs aren’t getting fulfilled, even if it’s just because you’re often apart.
Try to start any conversation about adding sex toys into the mix with positive statements. Talk about how much you love something they do in the bedroom. Then tell them how incredibly horny it makes you. Introduce how hot you think it would be to use a toy or watch them use a toy.
Highlight the Fun You’ll Have
Being able to talk about sex is an essential part of a healthy relationship. When bringing up sex toys, and especially long distance sex toys, make sure you highlight how awesome they can be. Then talk about it together.
Talk about how much fun it will be to give each other pleasure no matter how far apart you find yourselves. Let them know how much you care about them and focus on having intimate times even when you’re far apart.
Know Your Partner
Right after sex could be the perfect time to bring up sex toys, or it could be the worst. Think about your partner and how they view sex and toys before you start the conversation.
If they’re a little on the prudish side naturally you will have your work cut out for you. Some people just aren’t comfortable talking about sex or sex toys. Guys in particular can be really skittish about using toys on themselves.
According to Sex Toy Education though, there have never been more options for male sex toys.
This makes it a lot easier to find one they’re comfortable with.
Pick Out Toys Together
Probably the worst thing you can do would be to surprise your partner with a toy.
Bring up the subject well before you buy anything, and make sure you involve them in the process.
It’s honestly a lot of fun to look at all the crazy toys out there and find the ones that pop for the two of you. You might even learn something new about your partner’s kinks and desires.
Another thing to keep in mind is how you’ll use the toys when you’re together. A lot of male sex toys are pretty focused on masturbation but there are exceptions. Prostate massagers are a blast to play with together, as well as vibrating cock rings.
The Future of Long Distance Sex is Now
Long distance relationships are hard, but technology is helping to make them easier and more pleasurable. While it’s important not to become dependent on tech for relationship maintenance, long distance sex toys are here to stay because people want (and sometimes need) them. Trying these things out as a couple can help keep that spark alive. And ultimately get you even closer in your long distance relationship.
Long distance sex toys allow you to actively participate in each other’s play. You can bring your partner to a screaming orgasm while they make you moan and pant with desire. All while being hundreds, or even thousands of miles away.
They’re pricey, sure, but you get a lot for your money in both quality and fun. Can you really put a price tag on your relationship? Why not spend a bit of money to keep things hot and alive between you and your partner.
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