9 Best Prostate Massagers that Will BLOW YOUR MIND [2020]

Jacking off gets boring. I know, I know…it still feels great. But after decades of wanking, a change of pace can breathe new life into a boring masturbation routine.


QUESTION: Ok Dave, how can I make getting off more fun?

ANSWER: Keep reading and I’ll show you!


In this post you’ll see various options for buying the best prostate massager that fits your butt play goals.



Top Pick!

Lelo Loki

Lelo Loki

The BEST, hands down

AMAZINGLY strong vibes
Never falls out
Gives a good “stretch”
★ ★ ★ ★ ★

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Some common questions I’ll answer:

  • Is the cost of this butt toy within my budget?
  • Which type of stimulator should I buy? Regular or vibrating?
  • I’m a prostate play beginner. Which device is right for me?
  • I like having my prostate pounded. Which one will hit me the hardest?
  • I enjoy a full feeling in my rectum. Which one will stretch me out a bit?
  • I heard some toys are made from stainless steel. Where do I find those?



Here’s why you should seriously consider getting a prostate stimulator: whether you’re an ass play veteran or a complete beginner, there’s nothing like the primal, erotic feeling of a toy filling the rectum. I used to be a nay-sayer too, until I tried it…



The toys you’ll read about:

  1. Lelo Loki
  2. Lelo Hugo
  3. Aneros Helix Syn
  4. Njoy Pure Wand
  5. L’Amourose Rosa Rouge
  6. Aneros Vice
  7. Lelo Billy
  8. Lelo Loki Wave
  9. Aneros Progasm



The 9 Best Prostate Massagers!


#1. LELO Loki

Best for: Intermediate to Advanced users


Fills the rectum very well. Provides a good “stretch.” Moderately expensive.


Here’s the reason this stimulator is my #1 favorite: the vibrations are simply the strongest, most powerful vibes I’ve ever felt in a prostate toy. Bar none.

It’s like the LELO Billy on steroids.

But what if I’m not feeling like getting my prostate pounded today? No problem. I can turn the vibes way down so I feel nothing more than a tickle. Enough for a light day massage session.

This male vibrator is a modern day sexual work of art. It can make me moan in ecstasy or squirm with discomfort, depending on how I use it. Regardless, this toy is great every time I use it.


Lelo Loki

The LELO Loki. Note the easy to navigate control pad on the left.


You may be familiar with the name Loki from Norse mythology. Like the namesake, this toy is full of surprises and satisfying attributes that will make any man’s prostate tremble with excitement.


  • The larger size provides that “full” feeling down there. More so than every other toy I have reviewed. A primal experience every man should try.
  • Controls are fairly easy to operate and become familiar with.
  • Like the Hugo, it’s powered by a rechargeable battery with excellent life.
  • The velvety smooth business end of the toy feels great and cleans up easily.


  • If you have a tight butt hole, it’s uncomfortable at first.
  • Somewhat expensive, but more affordable than the HUGO below.
  • No wireless remote. Not a bit deal for some guys, but I personally love the ability to control my toys from a distance. Not possible here.

Read my full LOKI review, right here. Also, read bout LOKI’s half brother called WAVE, here


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#2. LELO Hugo

Best for: Beginners to Advanced Users


Fills the rectum moderately. Comfortable when in place. Expensive.


I’ve written about HUGO a lot since it was released a couple years ago. I don’t use it as much as I used to, but it’s still one of my favorite horses in the stable – so to speak.

Yes, I know. Another toy from LELO. I cant help it, though. They make some of my favorite male sex toys.

Here’s why I like this one so much: the wireless remote control. For a long time I never had wireless toys, and thought of them as a silly gimmick. Now that I have one, I can’t believe I waited so long. Being able to have my hands free to do other things is awesome. I simply find a setting I like, and put the remote down. Voila! Hands-free!


Lelo Hugo remote control male vibrator

Toy on the right. Wireless remote control on the left.



  • It’s cordless, utilizing a rechargeable battery.
  • It comes with a wireless remote control.
  • A satin, soft feel texture that feels good in the hand, even better in the butt.
  • HUGE range of vibrations from intense rumbles all the way down to mild vibrations.
  • It’s a hands free device. Once inserted, your hands are available for other things and not fiddling around with a toy.
  • It’s waterproof. Enjoy it anywhere, even the shower!



  • It’s expensive. One of the highest cost toys I’ve reviewed.
  • Take some practice to get accustomed to the remote control and settings on the toy.

Read the full review of Hugo, right here.


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#3 Aneros Helix Syn

Best for: Beginners


Minimal feeling of rectal fullness. Inexpensive. Easy to insert.


Syn is the prostate toy that started it all, for me. The very first one I purchased. It helped me learn about my body and how it responds to prostate play. It taught me how and when to move, and when to stop and be still.

With it, I learned the principles of hands free stimulation. And how to experience a prostate orgasm.

But I don’t use it much anymore, as I’ve graduated to bigger and better things. Syn does make an appearance every now and then, for nostalgia more than anything.


Aneros Helix Syn

The Aneros Helix Syn. Simple. Small. A great training device.



  • Very inexpensive
  • It’s simple. No batteries to charge or vibrators to stop working.
  • The #1 best toy for beginners. The slim diameter is perfect for rookies who aren’t used to inserting things into their butt.



  • It takes patience and practice to use. Some guys report having hard time getting off with it.
  • This thing is like cocaine. Tolerance builds very quickly. It doesn’t take long before this toy just isn’t enough anymore.


Read the full review of Syn, right here. For even more excitement from Aneros, read my review of the Vice here.


Buy it directly from Aneros, here:




#4. Njoy Pure Wand

Best for: Intermediate to Advanced Users


Like two toys in one. Versatile. Moderate fullness from one end, minimal fullness from the other. Moderately Expensive.


There’s something about cold, hard unforgiving stainless steel that makes it so perfect for sex toys. It’s raw. It’s naughty. It’s bad ass.

The Pure Wand never gets old for me. It’s a timeless toy that never rests for too long. It’s just too awesome to leave alone.


The best thing about this toy?

I can precisely control the pressure on my prostate when I’m using it. You see, the toy acts like a lever when inserted. When I’m laying on my back, a simple press down will nudge the other end of the Wand up. This applies more pressure to my prostate.

If I want a lighter touch, I just lift up. This eases the pressure on my prostate.

All in all, this toy is kinda like an exotic Italian sports car. It’s firm and unforgiving, but in the right hands, amazing things can happen.



Njoy Wand review

The Njoy Pure Wand is a timeless classic. It will probably out live me…



  • Stainless toys are the ultimate for durability and will last decades.
  • Men and women can BOTH enjoy it! It’s like getting two toys for the price of one.
  • A snap to clean. Some hot soapy water does the trick every time.
  • No other toy is built like this. Applying and decreasing pressure during prostate play doesn’t get any easier.
  • The balls on each end are different sizes. Use the big one when feeling frisky.



  • Semi expensive. You get what you pay for. Sheer excellence.
  • It’s heavy! A hand is always required to keep it on the right spot.
  • Steel holds temperature very well. If this toy is in a cold room, it’s best to put it in warm water for a bit before play time.

Read the full review of the Pure Wand, right here.


Check price at LoveHoney.com




#5. L’Amourose Rosa Rouge

Best for: Intermediate to Advanced users


Fills the rectum nicely. Comfortable when in place. Expensive.


Last, but certainly not least, is the Rosa Rouge by L’Amourose. This toy is sophisticated. Like something designed by Coco Chanel. Looking at the picture below, one could swear that it flew in, straight from a Paris fashion show.


The best thing about this toy?

It has a nifty trick up its sleeve: it heats up! As far as I know, this is the only vibe that has this feature.

Personally, I think there’s (almost) nothing more uncomfortable than an ice cold sex toy. If it’s cold enough, it’s like jamming a dildo shaped ice cube up the butt. Not cool.

All those problems go away with this euro-style male vibrator. The operating temperature is perfect every time. It only takes a few moments for it to heat up, perfect for when I’m short on time and need to move quickly.


L'Amourose Rosa Rogue review

The L’Amourose Rosa Rouge. Elegant. Sophisticated. Stimulating.




  • It has a built in heating element, so it’s always at the right temperature.
  • Powerful vibrations. Right in line with LELO’s vibrators.
  • The flexible shaft is nice. Sometimes a completely rigid toy is a bit uncomfortable. Rouge solves this problem and it makes the toy a bit more comfortable that others.
  • It’s waterproof, so playtime can be virtually anywhere.



  • Expensive at north of $100 US
  • Charging is only available on the provided stand, which I’m not a huge fan of. I prefer to plug it in directly like most other toys. Not a deal breaker though.

Read the full Rouge review, right here.


Check price on Amazon



#6. Aneros Vice

Best for: Intermediate to Advanced users


Fills the rectum nicely. Comfortable when in place. Mid priced.


I consider the Vice a classic prostate toy. Simple yet effective. Luxurious feeling but not too expensive. It’s also the first vibrating one I bought!


I like it because it comes in two pieces, which makes maintenance easier.

  • The vibrating mechanism that slides out the bottom for battery replacement or cleaning (if necessary).
  • The soft yet firm body safe silicone plug that does most of the work.


aneros vice



  • Easy to operate. One button turns it on, off and adjusts the vibes.
  • Stays in place very well. Once it’s in there’s no coming out until you’re ready to remove it manually.
  • Flexible so it can be manipulated easily. Firm enough to provide consistent pressure.



  • Battery life is average. A few hours of play tops, depending on your setting. Fortunately it uses just one AAA battery.
  • Changing the battery in the vibrator can be tricky because the parts are relatively small.


Read my full review of Vice, right here.


Buy it directly from Aneros, here:





#7. Lelo Billy

Best for: Beginners


Minimal feeling of rectal fullness. Mid priced. Easy to insert.


This was my first vibrating toy from LELO, the one that really turned me on to the brand. You probably noticed that I mention several of these from the same manufacturer. Well, that’s for a reason: because they’re, in my opinion, the best on the market.

Great battery life, smooth and easy operation, along with sexy aesthetics. Really everything a sex toy owner could want.


the Billy by Lelo




  • Easy to insert in the rectum
  • Thin design has a smaller diameter which makes it easier to use for beginners or those with really tight butt holes
  • The battery is rechargeable, so trying to find replacement batteries is a thing of the past.



  • The slender design might not be big enough to get the stretched out sensation that many anal players enjoy
  • It has a tendency to slide out, so it will require a constant hand to keep it in there.


Read my full review of Billy, right here.


Check price @ LELO.com





#8: LELO Loki Wave

Best for: Intermediate to advanced users


Fills the rectum well. Provides a good “stretch.” Moderately expensive.


If any of my sex toys made me say WHOA the first time I used it, it was this one.

Wave offers something unique to any anal toy I’ve ever seen: it has a reticulating “arm” that moves back and forth to hit two spots at once! The prostate and the nearby perineum. Combined with the excellent vibrations, this is the one and only toy that provides the full package for maximum ass pleasure.

It’s basically a cousin to the standard Loki that was #1 on this list. Same size. Same vibes. Just with the additional stimulating arm.

The only reason it’s so far down on the list is the price point. I feel it’s a bit expensive for what it does, but if you have money to spare, totally worth it.


lelo loki wave



  • The reticulating pleasure arm that rubs the perineum is a unique feature
  • Strong vibrations that are easy to control
  • Waterproof for playtime anywhere.



  • While the moving arm is fun, I feel that it’s an unnecessary edition that’s not worth it in “bang for the buck” terms.
  • While I’ve never had any issues with mine, I feel that the moving arm could be problematic over long term use. More complex mechanisms are more likely to fail.


See my full review of Wave, right here.


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#9. Aneros Progasm

Best for: Beginning to intermediate users.


Fills the rectum moderately. Provides an ok “stretch.” Inexpensive.


The Progasm is similar to the Helix mentioned earlier. I call it “the meat and potatoes model.” Nothing fancy. Old school. Simple, but gets the job done.

I also like it because it’s inexpensive. Just basic hard plastic. There’s no silicone on this baby. With that said, there’s no soft velvety texture on the exterior. But that doesn’t matter much once it’s in your ass.


an Aneros Progasm review!




  • It’s rigid. No flexibility means it can it firmly hit the prostate. HARD. This might be good or bad depending on what you like.
  • Great price point. Once of the least expensive toys I’ve reviewed.
  • It works very well!



  • See those little arms sticking out in the picture above? They’re slightly flexible. Sometimes they dig into the perineum a bit, making it uncomfortable. This can be fixed by repositioning the body once inserted.
  • It’s just basic ABS plastic. Body safe, but cold, hard and not very sexy.


Read my full review of the Progasm, here.


Check price @ Aneros.com




Still can’t decide on a prostate toy? Here’s even more info…






Hopefully you’ve read through my post, For the ULTIMATE Male Orgasm, Try Prostate Milking. If not, check it out here. That post contains everything you need to know to have a prostate orgasm.



I’m a complete beginner! Help?!

If you’re brand new to all this, I recommend that you don’t buy a toy at all. At least not yet.

Start with a finger, or have your partner use theirs. Get accustomed to the feelings, sensations and locations.

Once you’ve been down this road and feel like “hey, I want to take this to the next level!” then it’s time to grab your first toy.

As mentioned in my  list above, there’s no better toy to start than with the Helix Syn, by Aneros. I’ve included a few more options in the table below, suitable for noobs.



Beginner toy suggestions

Toy DescriptionReview Link
Aneros Helix SynReview
Lelo BillyReview
Aneros Progasm Jr.Review
Lelo HugoReview



I have some experience, but not a lot. What should I try?

This is for the level 2 prostate players. You’ve graduated from fingers and small diameter toys and need something a bit larger and more fulfilling.

These stimulators pack a little more punch than the beginner toys. The diameters are a bit bigger and will cause a little more stretch in your rectum.

The vibrators in this category will hit a little bit harder and will have a wide range of patterns and intensities to choose from.



Intermediate toy suggestions

Toy DescriptionReview Link
Lelo LokiReview
Lelo HugoReview
Njoy Pure WandReview
Lelo Loki WaveReview
Aneros ViceReview
Aneros ProgasmReview
L’Amourose Rosa RougeReview




I’m a veteran. Which one will rock me the hardest?

These stimulators are reserved for those who have graduated college and ready to go for the PhD. A couple of these aren’t for the feint of heart.

Do you like to have your butt hole stretched? These are the toys for you.

Do you like super strong vibrations? You’re in the right category.

Do you enjoy a bit of pain during anal play? These will make you feel right at home.

You’ll notice some toys here that were also included in the previous categories, for example the LELO Loki. I feel this belongs in both places. The diameter is large enough to accommodate intermediate players, while satisfying those that enjoy a full feeling in the rectum.

What really moves the Loki into the advanced category is the vibrations. They simply can’t be topped by any other toy (that I’ve tried). The intensity can be turned up so high that it becomes uncomfortable. Perfect for the guys that like to live on the edge.


Advanced toy suggestions

Toy DescriptionReview Link
Lelo LokiReview
Lelo HugoReview
Njoy Pure WandReview
Lelo Loki WaveReview
L’Amourose Rosa RougeReview
Tantus P SpotReview




Vibrating prostate stimulators: the pros and cons

This is a common question here at Mr. Racy. I get lots of emails from guys (and gals) asking “should I buy a vibrating model?” The answer isn’t so cut and dry, but here’s my personal opinion.

I love vibrators. They add the extra ZING to my playtime that keeps things interesting and exciting. I love it when I have a toy stuck deep in my ass and I can feel the vibrations radiating through the entire mid section of my body.

Is a prostate vibrator necessary to get off? No. It isn’t. But it feels better.




Vibrations feel damn good. There’s no denying it.

A good prostate vibrator can mean the difference between getting off and NOT getting off. For me personally, there are times where I have difficulty hitting P orgasm. No matter how long or hard I play, it just isn’t going to happen. However, if I plunge a strong male vibrator into my ass, the odds of having that killer orgasm increase significantly.

It’s good fun and keeps things interesting. Vibrators can serve multiple purposes. Not only is my Loki great for ass play, but it makes a great body massager! And if you’re a fan of frenulum play (tickling that skin on the underside of the tip of your penis) it feels phenomenal!



It’s a more complex device. This means you run the risk of something going wrong with it.

They cost more. As you would expect, a more complex device means it has more moving parts. This means it will generally cost more to purchase.

Vibrators need batteries to operate. Most of the time these are rechargeable battery packs (the Aneros Vice is an exception. It uses replaceable batteries). And they never last forever. Over time the charge and play capacity diminishes, just like any other rechargeable battery in your mobile phone, camera, etc. Once the battery reaches the end of its life, you’ll probably need to throw the toy away and buy a new one because they generally aren’t replaceable.

If the battery is dead, no playtime. If it’s been a while since you used your vibrator, the batteries might be dead. This means you have to wait for it to charge, or go buy new batteries. So much for a spur of the moment session.



Various toy materials are available

As you’re looking around at various devices, there seems to be an endless selection of products comprised of different materials.

However, it’s not quite as confusing as it seems.

There are really only 4 different materials that these toys are made of.



This is usually ABS plastic. It’s quite hard, firm and unforgiving. But it’s very effective when rigidity is needed to make a toy stiff and non bendable. The Aneros Progasm (read more) fits in this category.

When choosing a plastic toy, make sure it’s body safe and doesn’t contain phthalates. Reputable manufacturers like LELO, Aneros, Nexus and Tantus always make body safe toys and clearly state the materials their toys are made of. This is usually a concern only with the super cheap knock off brands.



This is the best, most luxurious option. Silicone is used in all sorts of sex toys for both men and women. It’s generally hypo-allergenic and safe for use in and out of the body. The Aneros Helix Syn (in my top 5 list above) and the LELO Loki Wave (read more) are fine examples.


Stainless steel

Steel is hard, cold and very unforgiving. This is what makes it one of my favorite sex toy materials. It’s nearly indestructible and very easy to clean and maintain. The Njoy Pure Wand is my favorite (one of my top 5 at the beginning of this post).



This is widely used for sex toys as well. But I’m not a big fan of it. It’s a very easy material to clean, and when lubed up, it slides in and out of all orifices amazingly well. I just don’t like putting things made of glass inside my body. Just make sure there are no cracks or pieces of glass that are missing.



How much do they cost?

Like most things in life, you get what you pay for.

Typically, when you pay bottom dollar for a cheap knock off item, you get a product that’s crap and doesn’t last for long. On the flip side, when you pay a little more for a quality product, you expect it to last and work well. There are exceptions to these rules, but in general, this is how it goes.

Prostate massagers are no different. Cheap ones are available for around $10 US. Or, you can spend north of $200 US. It’s entirely up to you and your personal budget.

Price varies based on a multitude of factors, including but not limited to:

  • Manufacturer
  • Complexity, design of the toy
  • Materials the toy is made of
  • The vendor you buy it from

When you are ready to purchase, I strongly suggest that you pay a little more and get a toy from a reputable manufacturer.

All the toys I review on this blog are from what I consider to be reputable manufacturers. Aneros, LELO, Tantus, etc. are all trustworthy companies that offer toys with warranties and stand behind their products.

Another thing that makes these businesses trustworthy is that the plainly state what their toys are made of. They display this information prominently so that you can see that they are constructed of safe materials and won’t hurt you.




Well, that wraps things up.

Not only did you see my favorite prostate toys, but you learned what to look for in your next toy purchase. Based on your experience level and lifestyle, the toy that’s perfect for each individual can vary greatly.



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Author: Dave

Hi, I'm Dave. And I'm a....sex fiend?!? No, not really. But, Kinda :) Actually, I'm just your average white collar guy who happens to have a soft spot for sexy WOMEN and HOT sex toys. Hence, these are my chosen topics for this blog. I'm fluent in 3 languages: English, Profanity and Sarcasm. I own a number of male sex toys, and my personal "toybox" is growing rapidly. But prostate toys are my favorite. So, enjoy the ride, and drop me a line if you have something to say!

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  1. Hey Dave, thank you thank thank you thank you for this blog! It was this and your recommendation that lead me to buy a Helix Syn Trident and good fucking god I am grateful.

    With that being said, it has since been a number of years since you posted this and I am wondering if anything has changed in the past couple of years. I’m ready to graduate on to something better from the Helix Syn and I am wondering what your recommendation is.

    I know that you chose Lelo Loki as your #1 with the Lelo Hugo behind it in #2. If money isn’t a concern, is this still your preference? Or has your opinion changed over the years?


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  2. Hi Dave!
    Have you ever used The Backdoor Rabbit? That’s what I use and I think it’s incredible. It seems very similar to the Loki, except the Rabbit has the little “ears” that tickle the perineum…a nice touch! I’m interested in making another purchase and I’d love to know how you think the Rabbit stacks up, if you’ve used it before. Thanks in advance!

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    • That sounds like a fun toy to try. I’ll have a look!

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  3. Have you ever reviewed any prostate toys that go from side to side? I’ve noticed a couple that do 360 degree rotation. For me I get a much better bodily response going from side to side rather than in any other direction or “tapping” forward and back. Unfortunately the one on Amazon that has good reviews does not ship to a PO Box. Just curious if you have a recommendation? If not maybe in the future you can look to review this type of prostate toy?

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  4. Thanks for this nice post. …

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  5. I am an experienced anal player and have a few prostate toys already. I have read your brilliant reviews and can’t decide between the Lelo Loki and the Njoy wand. I do like the hands free thing so I can really enjoy focusing totally on the feelings down there – which might rule out the wand although I am intrigued by your amazing experiences with it! But the Loki doesn’t really look hands free either? Any advice? Have you tried the Njoy XL plug?

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    • Hello. Unfortunately Loki isn’t hands free either. And yes the Pure Wand is amazing! Have not tried the Plug XL cuz i’m kinda scared of it!

      Personally I’d go Loki all the way, but that’s just me. It’s big enough for a nice stretch down there and the vibes are killer. Tough decisions I know 🙂

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      • Dave,
        Thank you SO MUCH for all of the great info! My boyfriend and I are basically middle age and as his girlfriend, I will do whatever I can to get him to have his best orgasm ever! I am looking so forward to going over this article with him and seeing what he wants to try:))))

        A Very Devoted and Loving GF to My BD

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        • That’s awesome!! Hope he enjoys it as much as I do. Cheers!

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        • I’m looking for a vibrating plug that I can wear for long periods of time that really teases and hits that spot. Hoping not to break the bank but willing to pay for a good one. Any suggestions? Thank you so much.

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  6. So I want to add my experiece to the fray. I started with the Syn. I don’t have patience so after four times I was on to the next toy.

    Next I tried the Lelu Loki Wave. For me it was a lot like a certain toy that bangs the frenulum over and over. For me it just numbs the area.

    Then I tried the Njoy Pure Wand. I’m in heaven. I didn’t orgasm the first time but I came mighty close. To me manually manipulating the toy is a plus. The reason is for me certain areas of the prostate just feel better than others. This is also why I like the Tenga Flip Zero (non-electric) over everything else. Because there are so many nooks and crannies that just feel different you can costantly turn the bugger for what feels best. But here’s my concern. I’m a newbie when it comes to this stuff. Is it safe to rub the Njoy Pure Wand back and forth over the same area? For me it started getting a little rough in there and I panicked. So pulled it out and lubed again. But the real issue for me is can the prostate withstand a lot of pressure being put on it. It’s very similar to rubbing your penis up and down. What do you think? I’m sure you know certain toys we are told just to use our rectum muscle and not move it with hands.

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  7. Dave, I’ve been experimenting with prostate play for a while now. But being 6’5″, I have found my prostate to be deeper than what they say most men are. The only way i have been able to reach it is with a vibrator, but i really want a hands free device. I do enjoy a strong vibration too, but it isnt necessary. In my search for the “P” orgasm, multiple “O”, or the none seminal orgasm, I tried the Aneros Classic. But it was also too short.
    I guess what I’m trying to get at is, can you recommend any longer prostate massagers? Preferably hands free seeing as any of the Lelo models will be where I’ve already been. Are there any like the Aneros that are above the 5″ insertable length? Big or not is fine, but I do enjoy that full feeling. I am searching for the hands free Aneros style orgasm. I really want to be able to experience what I’ve read so much about and seen in a few home videos.
    Thank you in advance.

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      • Just want to add I have your same issue being 6′ 3.” I don’t know why sellers of prostate toys don’t talk more about this issue. Anyway the Njoy Pure Wand now makes me cum over and over again. The other toys just can’t reach my sweet spot. Good luck!

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  8. Hey love you reviews
    I tried out the Aneros Helix Syn and it felt ok but I think it’s going too deep to hit my prostate I have to hold it back to get the feeling I want. If I don’t it just slides past my prostate and stays there feeling ok. Is that normal? No big o yet cause I have to hold the thing back

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  9. I really like your healthy, matter-of-fact, non-judgmental approach to sexuality. Men, regardless of sexual orientation, have a lot of hang ups and misconceptions around our bodies and sex.

    Thanks to reading your personal and informative articles, I’ve purchased the Lelo Billy. As a gay man, although I fantasize about anal intercourse and being penetrated. I’ve only allowed myself to try it a few times. It’s only been recently that I’ve admitted to myself that I still judge myself for being gay and desiring anal sex. As a result, I’ve never allowed myself to explore prostate pleasure during solo play.

    I honestly didn’t believe it possible to enjoy anal sex or have orgasms without ejaculating. That is until I experienced this during my second session with the Lelo Billy. I felt the sensations that you described, orgasming twice without ejaculating! I will no longer doubt your sage advice and and very much looking forward to becoming more comfortable with my body, during solo play and with a partner.

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    • Congrats, Erick! I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying yourself 🙂

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  10. Nice website!

    I just got a prostate vibe in the mail and unfortunately, the thing is too big to fit. It’s obviously going to take a while to be able to take it inside, even though it’s not THAT big. I tried for 4 hours today just to fit it in, and failed miserably. Any tips on stretching so I can fit it? How long is it going to be before I can increase the size I can take? Right now, even a single finger can feel uncomfortable, but I want to experience the fabled big O.

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    • The best tip I can offer is to start with a finger and work your way up. Hard to say how long it will take, as every guy is different. Remember, practice and persistence will pay dividends in the end 🙂

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  11. Hi Dave, glad I found this really helpful site. A request for some advice if I may. I recently started taking an interest in my prostate, I’m 53 and it comes up in conversations. So I thought I’d buy a massager; not having played around there ever and not really reading up, i purchased a Rocks Off bad boy. On receipt I was shocked at its size. Liking a challenge I followed the advice and eventually managed to get it me, but couldnt get the last thick part in. After about 45 minutes of getting no pleasure from it, I gavevup and put it away. The following morning I tried again, somebpleasure but mostly frustration. So i read a little more and gave it another go in the afternoon and after about half an hour of sitting rocking on this thing I had what I can only describe as 5 mind blowing O’s one after the other. My body tensed until it could tense no more. Ibcouldnt wait to try again and several days later I did, but nothing, just frustration. I git the feeling of wanting to pee, but it didnt build tobanything despite repeating what id done previously. After 3 more attemptsbover the weeks I ourchased a Hugo. I gave that a shot today and despite the nice feeling I dont seem to be able to build to an orgasm. Sorry about the length of this but is this Normal?

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    • Hi Phreeked:

      For starters, there really isn’t anything normal when it comes to prostate play. Every guy is different!

      Hugo and the Bad Boy are two completely different toys. It may take some experimentation to find the right way to use your Hugo. But once you do, you won’t be disappointed! Stick with it and try different things. You’ll get there!

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  12. hello Dave…what are your tips for using the njoy pure wand…i bought it recently just looking for some tips on the best way to use it…havent tried it yet but want to…the best lube for it to

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    • Good choice on the Pure Wand, one of my favorite toys.

      Since the Wand is stainless steel, you can use any lube you like. If you’re looking for the ultimate in long lasting slipperiness, you can’t go wrong with a silicone lube. Swiss Navy makes a killer lube, check it out here.

      For tips on how to use it, I recommend laying on your back, and using a rocking motion that goes in the direction of your body. Read how I use it, here.

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      • very cool….thanks for the info…ill try that

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  13. Hi Dave,

    I recently purchased a Loki Wave after reading your review. It feels great, and I consistently get off using it! However, I can’t *quite* seem to reach a full hands free orgasm with it. It’s like I get to the brink, and then…nothing. Any tips?

    Also, do you have a prefer nice between Hugo & Loki Wave? Was considering both, and may still add Hugo later. Any point to getting Hugo when I already have the wave?

    Thanks so much.

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    • Hey Alex,

      Glad you are enjoying the Wave! Well, in my experience, Wave isn’t all that great for hands free play. The reticulating arm and the shape of the toy really don’t lend themselves to being a hands off toy.

      Hugo on the other hand works pretty well for hands free action. It does have a tendency to not stay firmly planted, though. It never pops all the way out, but it can be difficult to keep it on the “sweet spot”. To alleviate this, I like to use it while laying on my back, with my upper body propped up on a pillow. I can then sit on it so it stays in place.

      Hugo is a very different toy but is definitely better for hands off use. The wireless remote control is killer, in my opinion.

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  14. So I tried this last night for the first time and wow. For one thing I never felt like that in my life or never even imagined I could feel like that it was almost too good if that’s it sounds weird but it’s true. I was in complete shock like 4 hours so much happened I was grinding my teeth like crazy and I still am today I was shaking my legs were f****** shaking and seen me in my arms it was like two good man like I felt like I was hooked on some crazy drug.

    What really got me was that I could never could even imagine how good I could actually feel and I couldn’t even get out of the bed for an hour or two like it literally left me speechless woke up today and I’m still in shock. It’s like I’ve discovered this insanely awesome Secret I still don’t even believe it last night was crazy intense but good. Now today I know what to expect and I’m really really really nervous so I only had it for 10 minutes and had to take a break and I can’t stop grinding my teeth are my legs can’t stop shaking it’s late mine says your system is on overload and not saying it’s bad but holy s*** this is so crazy stuff.

    High anxiety when I first start more than I’ve ever had and the weird thing is within seconds all of that goes with it it’s almost like too fast too intense but you want warm it’s freakin crazy on the head to. Other than that I woke up this morning feeling totally different better more energy less stressed like last night I got that high from the pleasure that response I don’t remember and I wasn’t even on drugs.

    It might take some time to get used to it’s almost like learning that you just want five billion dollars that same feeling. Black guy holding a big secret or stressed for pleasure for everything and nobody else knows about it just a select few every aspect of it that’s crazy crazy good though. Like I think about it all day and it’s so awesome but yet when it comes time to do it I would rather jump off a bridge it’s so contradictory it’s weird actually do you ever get used to it like the intensity.. even thinking about it earlier I started to shake and got a bit nauseous can you imagine that nervous over feeling that good like I said it’s a feeling I never had but yeah do you ever get used to it someone or is it like this crazy head games trouble every day til you actually do it.

    Hot last night I spent the first twenty minutes trying it I couldn’t get up for a half hour I can give it like I keep saying I keep saying I can’t believe it it’s like a dream how can I get rid of this insane anxiety crazy for doing it I actually get a bit nervous cuz I know I’m going to feel like good did a lot of drugs but none of them may be nervous that I felt that good will I have her address this is definitely a life-changer on my mood on everything it’s crazy again LOL

    any advice and once again I’m here saying well and grinding my teeth just thinking about it it’s an insane addiction I know. it’s definitely the craziest hand intense pleasure for addiction and it’s drug free my mind can’t get over it addiction what I can say was it’s the same or higher than any drug it’s crazy it literally took me to Extasy actually Beyond ecstasy which I didn’t know existed until last night without taking drugs.

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    • Glad you’re enjoying yourself Timmy!

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  15. Hi Dave, I wanted to comment on why there are rumors of knockoffs on Amazon and why some manufactures do not honor warranties on things purchased from there. It is well known that Amazon provides order fulfillment for some sellers. When they do this all items with the same sku go into a communal “bin” if a fake has the same sku printed on it as a genuine item, since some fakes appear high quality it might go into the bin with a genuine item. Amazon could therefore inadvertently sell a fake even though it is sold by them if a fake item has been sent to them from other sellers and then placed with Amazon’s own stock. Hope this helps anyone wondering what the issue with Amazon is!

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    • Ryan, thanks so much for clarifying this!

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  16. Hi Dave,

    Between the Vice, Billy, & Loki – can you give a brief opinion on each as well as a ranking? I would very much appreciate it. Thanks


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    • Hello Cobb:

      I can certainly do that! Here are my thoughts:

      Loki – of the three, this is my favorite one. However it’s on the bigger side, so if you’re just starting out, this could be a bit tricky. If you’ve been at prostate play for a while, the “fullness factor” that this toy provides is phenomenal. Also, this one has the strongest, most intense vibrations of the three. It also has the widest range of vibration intensities and patterns. It’s also the most expensive of the three.

      Vice – I’ll have to rank this #2, purely because it’s designed to be used hands free. If you’re looking for a toy that you can just pop in and use your hands for something else, this is the toy to have. A decent number of vibration patterns, just not as strong as Loki. A great toy for beginners wanting to move up to the next level.

      Billy – reluctantly, I have to rate this #3. It’s still pretty awesome, although it’s definitely eclipsed by Loki. Billy is great for beginners because of its small diameter and relatively straight form. This one is great for couples, as your partner can literally fuck you in the ass with this one. It’s great for some in and out while vibrating.

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  17. Hi, so I first started prostate play when I was about 16 and I really enjoy it, I own an Aneros, the Rocks-off bad boy (cant get it in all the way) and I sometimes use my girlfriends rabbit dildo! I like the full feeling but I have tried and tried and cannot seem to reach orgasm from prostate play alone. What does happen sometimes, is that I feel like I’m reaching the point but I then end up peeing and sometimes pooing. It’s like the intense feeling forces my body to push everywhere… It feels good but also frustrating, like I was so close but not close enough!

    Do you have any tips for me? Surely I must be doing something wrong? Maybe I’m massaging my bladder or just not recognising the right feelings? It’s so frustrating. I love your product reviews by the way!

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    • Hello Jim,

      Glad to hear you’re sticking with it and not giving up! It sounds like you’re really close.

      I have 2 comments:

      1. Have you tried getting TOTALLY relaxed and in the moment? Make sure you follow my preparation guide in this article. Also, since you own an Aneros, make sure you’re squeezing and releasing your pelvic floor muscles. This is what really makes that toy work. I have a quick primer on the squeeze and release in the “how to use” section of my Helix Syn review. Read about that here.

      2. Some men just can’t get off fully with prostate play. I’m not sure this is the case for you, since you seem to be getting really close. Remember, don’t try to force it, or make it happen. Just let it happen. Maybe you just need more stimulation BEFORE you get started? Have your girlfriend get you really hot, or watch some porn, perhaps?

      I wish you the best on your journey! Come back and write me when you get there!

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  18. Hello Dave! I recently caved in and decided to buy my first P massager in hopes of experiencing this incredible orgasm I’ve been hearing about. I really enjoyed reading through your website. It’s nice to finally find some organized info on the subject! So I bought the “duke” from fun factory at the recommendation of the woman working in the store and I’ve used it about 5 times now. Unfortunately I haven’t reached the big O yet. After reading through your articles however, I think I’ve been rushing the process and haven’t been in the right mindset for it so I’m eager to try that out next time. I do have a couple questions for you if you wouldn’t mind though!
    1. Have you used the duke from fun factory? If so what are your thoughts on it? I think I might be having trouble finding the right placement while its inside.
    2. Should I be moving the toy around while inside or do I just let it sit there with my hands at my sides?? I kinda went into this without knowing ANYTHING about prostate stimulation. I’ve never talked to anyone about it, never had anyone even touch my anus, and I’m struggling finding help online.
    People say try different techniques if something isn’t working but I don’t know what techniques mean. Are there actual proven “techniques” for prostate massaging or does technique in this case take a completely subjective route?
    Thank you for putting your time and energy into this! I’ve already learned a lot just by reading through your articles. Hope to hear from you soon!

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    • Hello ANewPlayer!

      Thanks for stopping by. First, I’ll answer your questions.

      1. I have not used the Fun Factory Duke. It sounds like a great toy, and I hope to give it a try sometime. So many toys…so little time!
      2. Whether you move it around or leave it in place depends on the device. I suspect the Duke is designed to just insert it and turn it on. You might try try moving it around a bit with your hand. If laying on your back, try pushing down on it so the end in your rectum presses up against your prostate. I wouldn’t wiggle it, though. Rather try pushing it in different directions and hold it there until you find a position that feels good. Again, I don’t have experience with your particular device so it’s difficult for me to give advice about it.

      Achieving the big “O” isn’t always an easy process. What works for me might not work for you. Every body has a different response. The best advice I can give is located in my article that talks about using a prostate massager, right here. If that still doesn’t deliver any results, feel free to hit me up on my contact page, and I may be able to give you more personalized advice.

      All the best!

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  19. Hi! Great information, thanks so much. I’m trying to figure out the best way to use one of these toys on my bf. Should I blow him while it’s in? Or do as you said during solo maturation and just leave it in and not touch his penis till the end. Would soft pressure on the toy feel good?or maybe holding a vibrating bullet on the base so it vibrates? Any info would be great,throw anything at me! I’m ready and willing, but new to male ass play so would love some advice. Thanks!!

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    • Hello May!

      Thanks for stopping by. These are great questions. It’s totally awesome that you want to do this for him. I’m excited for you both! As I mentioned, preparation is key. Make sure you have AT LEAST an hour to do this. Two would be even better.

      In my personal opinion, the preparation and how you turn him on, are even more important than using the toy. So here is how I would proceed, if I were you…

      Assuming he’s new to prostate/anal play, I recommend you start out like solo masturbation. To make it extra special for his pleasure, do a thorough job of warming him up BEFORE you even pop the toy in. Lick him all over. His ass, balls, nipples, ears, etc. Take a shower together, and give all parts of his body extra special attention. Do whatever revs his engine. Just don’t allow him to cum yet. And don’t over stimulate him.

      Once you’ve done all this, bring him back down to earth with a sensual body massage. Rub his shoulders, arms, legs, butt cheeks. Use a pleasant massage oil. The point of this is to get him to relax. So he almost melts and becomes putty in your hands. Remember, YOU are in control here.

      Once he feels like he’s ready, get the toy out. How you use it depends on the type of device.

      Now, to answer your specific questions:
      If it’s a dildo, you’ll be able to move it in and out. Your idea of holding a vibrating bullet at the base is an EXCELLENT idea. He will probably love this!

      If it’s a dedicated prostate massager (like a hands-free model), you probably won’t be able to manipulate it, depending on the device. Just leave it in there and his anal muscles will do the work. In fact, you should avoid touching the toy or his penis. Touching the toy with a vibrator, would be perfectly fine, though. This is a great way to buzz his prostate.

      Whichever type of toy you use, I highly recommend you do the following things: talk to him. caress him. Let him know that this is HIS time to feel good. Let him know how hot he makes you. How much he turns you on. How you want to see him shoot his massive loads. Remember, communication is key. Ask him what feels good. Encourage him to express how he is feeling. This will help you do the best job possible.

      When you’re ready to finish him off, THEN give him the blowjob of his life.

      I took some broad strokes here, since I don’t know the details of your situation. If there’s anything I missed, please write back and I will answer the best I can.

      Last, but not least, come back and let me know how it went!


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      • Thank you so much for the time you put into your reply! The toy just came in today, so we will be trying it this weekend. I don’t belive I can upload a picture of the toy, but it’s soft silicon 1.5 inch diameter and 4 inch long. My first thought when I saw it was “wow this is pretty thick” I’m wondering if I should start with beads or a plug, as I said before, he takes my finger very easily and isn’t tight and resistant,so this could just be my own paranoia. Also since this is his first time with a toy, should I not keep it in long? And then there’s lube. I love h2o jo, it’s water based and we use that for whatever games we want to play, it’s very thin. Will that do? Or should I get a silicone lube? He’s very submissive and in his submissive state of mind, he won’t tell me if he’s in pain until after we are finished (aside from the fact that he doesn’t mind a little light pain) but I obviously don’t want to cause any damage to such a sensitive area. Now my question about prostate organs… I know, I know, I’m getting a little ahead of myself, but that’s my ultimate goal here. To absolutely utterly blow his mind. I want him itching to get back for more. So what are the basics of giving him a prostate O? I know this is going to take some practice and exploration, but I would like to go into it as educated as possible so I don’t make any mistakes and speed up the prosses to the ultimate goal of giving him the best organs of his life! This Friday will be our night to experiment, I will absolutely let you know how it goes, and probably have more questions! Until Friday I intend on reading your entire site and researching a lot! Any other tips and tricks would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
        Also, I’m far from close minded, throw anything at me! I want to learn

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        • Hello again, May!

          Congrats on the new toy. I’m sure you two will have “loads” of fun with it! 1.5 inches is a pretty sizable toy for a first timer, so you’ll probably need to get him loosened up before popping it in. Using beads or your finger beforehand would be a good idea. Just pay attention to his verbal and non-verbal cues and you’ll be fine. Just start slow and easy. And take your time.

          Now, to answer your questions:

          Also since this is his first time with a toy, should I not keep it in long?

          Once you get it in there, just keep it in for as long as he likes. The hardest part will be getting it in there. Once it’s in, you’re good to go. Any initial discomfort will probably go away after a few minutes. Just be slow and gentle. Let him set the pace.

          And then there’s lube. I love h2o jo, it’s water based and we use that for whatever games we want to play, it’s very thin. Will that do? Or should I get a silicone lube?

          H2O JO is a great lube. That will work just fine. Just a note, for silicone toys, it’s always best to use a water based lube. If you ever decide to upgrade to a stainless steel toy, then you can try out the silicone lube.

          To absolutely utterly blow his mind. I want him itching to get back for more. So what are the basics of giving him a prostate O?

          The best advice I can give is to use the article on this page as a guideline. This page is really geared toward the solo massage, but the process is essentially the same.

          These are the most important things to remember:
          1) make sure he’s relaxed,
          2) have plenty of time…at least an hour.
          3) leave his penis alone while the toy is in, even if he asks you to suck him off, jack him, or whatever. Remember, you’re in control, and the longer you can hold him off, the harder he will cum. He will thank you later!
          4) Make sure he’s in a comfortable position, whether it’s on the bed, couch, floor…whatever
          5) If you’re lucky and he happens to have some big prostate Os your first time, finish him off with the most bad-ass blowjob you can muster! If you like cum, swallow it all with a naughty smile on your face, and you’ll likely put him over the edge.

          Just don’t expect him to have a mind blowing prostate orgasm this time. In fact it could take many tries before he hits it. Just be patient.

          Oh, and here’s a pro tip that I mention in other places on my blog. Have him do this while the toy is in:

          Have him flex his pelvic muscles (also called PC muscles). Then relax them. It should feel like he’s “lifting” his groin area from the inside. The sensation is similar to when he urinates, and then forces himself to stop. This technique relaxes and contracts the exact same muscle group. Some folks refer to this as kegel exercises. Yes, guys can do these too!

          Also, I now have all my prostate pleasure articles combined into an e-book, for easier, more portable reading. You can download it for free on this page.

          That should get you started! I hope you two have a FABULOUS weekend! All the best.

          Feel free to ask any other questions you may have. This is exciting!

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  20. Thank you.
    I’ve been curious about this for some years since a girl I knew told me how she was going to give her man the most intense orgasm by inserting a finger and massaging host prostate.
    I did not find the courage to try it on myself for long time. Until I read this article.
    Five weeks ago I bought one toy and gave him some tries. The first time was good, got that “warm sensation” but no orgasm. I was not worried, after another couple of tries that went wrong (no warm sensation too), I started doubting that was only first-time over-excitation.
    I continued reading around the Internet and I started reading on some forums doctors saying prostate massage does not produce good feelings, and so I started really doubting on the whole thing.
    But I didn’t give up and yesterday on my 6th session I reached a powerful hands-free orgasm after anoint one hour. Unfortunately I did not achieve a second one so after 30 minutes I was exhausted and finished by masturbating myself and that was huge.
    I really thank you for this guide and for the others that are in doubt about this I only can say: it’s true, get relaxed and don’t give up!

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    • Christian:

      This is awesome! I’m so glad my guide was helpful for you. Stop back by and let me know how you’re progressing with your prostate play.



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