Five years ago, hell, even a year ago, if someone told me that I’d find pleasure by inserting a slightly curved metal rod into my urethra, I would’ve laughed in their face.
Sounds? Plugs? What is this nonsense?
I would’ve said: “Hell no! There’s only ONE kind of insertion I like, and it’s sliding my cock INTO something. Not the other way around.”
Times change, though, and a good friend of mine, who is into S&M, told me about “cock stuffing,” and said he thought I’d like it. He explained to me what it was and gave some suggestions for where I could get my own sounds. I thought it over and decided to do some research before I shoved anything into my urethra.
This guide covers the basics for safe play
Keep in mind that this guide is designed with the beginning cock sounder in mind. I’ll provide my personal experiences, and make suggestions based on my experience as a complete beginner. Kinda like Sounding 101.
Yes, there are a thousand different implements and methods for sticking things in your cock. But in this post, I’m mainly concerned with keeping things safe, yet fun.
Table of contents
- Sounds vs. Plugs. There IS a difference.
- Three things I learned about sounding
- What exactly is urethral sounding?
- The tools (sounds) you need.
- Penis Plugs. Similar but different.
- Use plenty of the PROPER lube.
- How to do it.
- When it’s over.
- Cleaning up.
- A short story about my first time.
- Educational videos
Before we go any further, it’s important to understand the difference between sounds and plugs. The terms are sometimes used interchangeably, but they are quite different in form and function.
- Both are used in urethral play
- Both are inserted into the tip of the penis
- Both can enhance sexual pleasure
- A penis plug is meant to be worn during sex and masturbation activities, kind of like jewelry. Some are solid, and some are hollow, to allow urine and ejaculate to pass through.
- Penis plugs are usually shorter and sometimes have ribs or notches to keep them from slipping out.
- Sounds are primarily longer (sometimes long enough to reach the bladder) and generally smooth.
- Sounds can be moved in and out while playing. Kind of like massaging the inside of the penis. Kinky! Only use small, gentle strokes.
1. Cock sounding and urethral play feel pretty awesome, once I got some practice and overcame the “ewwww” factor. It was primarily a mental block that kept me from truly enjoying this activity, not a physical one.
2. I’m willing to try almost anything sexual, and cock stuffing rates a solid 10 out of 10 on my personal kink scale!
3. The cost of entry is very low. For less than $30 US, I got an entire set of stainless steel sounds and some lube. Penis plugs can be purchased for less than $15 US.
It’s sometimes referred to as penis or cock sounding or stuffing. This is when you take a metal rod, called a sound, and slide it into your urethra.
People use it for both pleasure and pain. Once you get used to it, you can easily accomplish both. Personally, I’m not into the pain thing.
Here’s my personal experience: when inserted, it makes my cock very sensitive and responsive to external stimuli. For example, a light brushing of the hand across my erect penis feels magnified. Even more intense is light masturbation with the rod inserted. When I say light masturbation, I mean applying a very light grip with a hand and slowly stroke up and down.
It’s unique. It’s misunderstood. It’s a bit taboo. But it’s a lot of fun!
The rods themselves aren’t always curved. Some are straight, some have bulbs on the end, some are S-shaped, etc. I recommend straight or slighly curved rods for the beginning sounder.
When you’re ready to make a purchase, make sure to shop around (Amazon is a great place to start) to see what is out there and what you might be interested in using. Dittel, Hegar, Pratt and Rosebud all make respectable products. I went with Hegar, based on the positive reviews and comparatively low price.
Sounds often come in sets and are fairly affordable. A good starter kit and some lube can be had for less than $30 US. My set below was $20 US. A great deal for stainless steel, in my opinion. I bought my Hegar set (the one you see below) from Amazon. Here it is. There is even an electrified version available, but I don’t have the balls to use that one!
With that said, only use devices that were made for this type of sexual pleasure! Stainless steel is the best, most durable material you can use.
There are also silicone and plastic ones floating around on the market, but I suggest that beginning sounders stay away from these. Along with durability issues, the material could be porous, making it difficult to sterilize between uses.
And, for heaven’s sake, NEVER use a glass utensil! This includes thermometers. Not only do you risk getting shards of glass stuck in there, mercury in the urethra doesn’t sound like much fun either.
CAUTION: An accident with a non-stainless steel sound could be hazardous to your health in a variety of ways.
First and foremost, the tissue that lines your urethra is incredibly sensitive and can tear easily. If you use a sound the wrong way, you can tear the urethral wall. Don’t do this!
The pain will be excruciating and, because of the tear, you open yourself up to infections and other complications.
As I mentioned earlier, these are a bit different from sounds. They perform a similar function (sexual pleasure), but they are designed to be inserted, and then left in place. Kind of like shiny jewelry for your cock!
The designs and styles available are almost limitless. Some are completely smooth. Others have ridges, like mine below. Some come with an included ring that fits over the glans. This holds it safely in place. These prices range from $5 on up. Like real jewelry, the sky is the limit.
Some guys wear these to mimic the look and feel of a Prince Albert piercing, without the piercing, of course. Never heard of a Prince Albert? Read more here. Sounds excruciatingly painful…
I bought this plug from Amazon as well. See it here.
The main benefit of using a plug is that it makes the penis more sensitive. Some men experience harder erections and more intense orgasms.
I’m one of the lucky guys. Even in fourties, my erections are hard like diamond when I have one of these stuffed in my erect penis. The orgasms are certainly more intense. And when I cum, it definitely shoots farther as a result of the narrower, hollow orifice. Since my girlfriend is a total cum slut, this is a win-win for both of us.
Penis plugs are perfect for beginners, especially if you’re on the fence regarding urethral play. For less than $15, this is a great way to stick your toe in the water and see if this masturbation activity is your cup of tea. If not, no big deal…and you’re not out much cash. If you end of loving it (like me), you can take the next step and grab a full set of sounds.
Lube is VERY important when sounding. When choosing a lube, stay away from those with glycerin in them, as the sugar component in these lubes can cause UTIs.
I initially thought about using one of my favorite prostate massage lubes, ID Glide. Upon reading the ingredient list, I realized it contained glycerin. No go. So I picked up some SurgiLube and I was ready to go.
Pro Tip: don’t use saliva!
Saliva is also not an optimum lube. Not only can it cause UTIs, but it can dry up and cause irritation and pain. Friction is the LAST thing you need when sliding a metal rod in and out of your dick.
The process itself is quite simple. The main thing being that if you feel pain or extreme tightness or pressure, stop. There may be scar tissue or other blockages and you don’t want to run the risk of tearing something in there.
Before doing anything, make sure your tools are clean and sterilized. You can sterilize your sounds in boiling water (boil for thirty minutes or so) and, when you’re ready to start, make sure your penis and your hands are both clean.
If the sounds (or hands) end up touching something not clean, you run the risk of inserting whatever bacteria it may be into your body. Wash again and start over.
Once the implements are cleaned and cooled to a safe temperature, you’ll want to lube the sound as well as the area around the penis hole. Slowly let the rod slide into your urethra, pushing gently to ease it in. The first few times it may take some time to get used to the sensations and feelings. The key is going slow.
Once you get used to the size and the feeling of something inside your dick, you can begin to experiment a little bit by switching up the size of the sound or even rotating it while inside you. This is one of my personal favorite things to do!
When it comes to size, I recommended that you start at a size larger than the smallest one until you become comfortable with the process. A smaller sound could lead to puncturing or other damage when you are not as sure-handed as you might be eventually. This is why I started with the second smallest one, second from right in the Hegar set below.
After sounding is over, you may also feel a burning sensation when you urinate, which is caused by the irritation of the urethral wall by the sound. (If you’re into S&M, then this might be something right up your alley.) This is normal and usually dissipates quickly enough.
When you are done, it’s very important to thoroughly wash the implement and also to urinate so as to clear out the urethra. If you are using sounds with multiple people—sounds can play into many different S&M scenarios—the cleanliness of your sound is of even greater importance. Improperly cleaned tools, when shared, can lead to a host of STIs.
My Hegar sounds came in the mail while I was at work. Later that night, I decided it would be the first time I was going to try it. No one else was in the house. The sounding kit that I had gotten off Amazon was open next to me on the bed.
I’d boiled them earlier to make sure they were clean and ready. Next to that was my new tube of Surgilube that I also picked up online.
For a few moments, it was like being back in school and waiting to go into the principal’s office. What was going to happen? Was it going to hurt? What if I really did like it? Beyond that, that, what mood was I supposed to set? Did I need music? Was I trying to romance myself the first time I was going to slide a steel rod up my dick? Ah, so many questions.
I decided on music—if nothing else than to put my mind at ease—and sat back down on the bed. I pushed the thoughts that something would go wrong out of my head, grabbed by cock, and lubed the head around the hole. I also lubed up the sound—I went with the second-smallest—and placed the tip on top of the hole.
Here are a few great audio tracks that make my sounding sessions even better.
This was it. My friend said I was going to love it and now was the time to find out. I started to slide the sound into my cock. I let the sound glide in, slowly, and after a few inches I stopped. I was told not to force it and, really just to be one with the sensation.
As I sat there with the sound in my dick, I could feel a little tightness, but nothing too bad. It was the kind of tightness that feels good, like when a girl knows just how to hold your cock when she’s jerking you off, but on the inside. I sat there for another moment, feeling the sound inside me, before pulling it out and lubing it up again.
I was amazed that it didn’t hurt like I thought it would. I was ready to go again and, with a freshly lubed sound, I went back at it. When I got to the point where I stopped the first time, I gently started fucking my own cock with the sound, moving about a quarter-inch to a half-inch up and down.
It was weird at first, but I got used to it quickly. The tightness I had felt before had gone away a little and it started to feel pleasurable. I went slowly, like I was trying to romance my own cock with slow, sensual sex.
I continued this for a little while more, until I felt like the lube may be wearing off. I took the sound out and lubed it up once again.
I was hooked!
What had seemed so weird and painful just hours before was now something I began to think I couldn’t live without. Where had this been my whole life? It sounds cheap, but I felt like a new man. Now I had something for those days when my lady just wasn’t doing it for me. Or, even better, I thought about showing her. The image of the fun we were going to have together increased my pleasure even more.
I went for a few more minutes before stopping. I didn’t want to overdo it on my first try. I had been told that it might be sore after or that it would burn to urinate, so I didn’t want to cause too much pain right away.
I cleaned my sound and went to the bathroom to flush everything out before putting my new favorite toy away. I went into the shower after and masturbated, thinking about how I wanted to use it with my girlfriend as soon as I got the hang of it.
Overall, the first time wasn’t terrible, but it wasn’t the best I would have. It was like doing anything for the first time—masturbating, having sex, going down on a girl—you sort of know what you’re doing, but you still really don’t. So the sensations are going to be different from when you really know what’s going on.
I didn’t do it again for a week. There was a slight burning sensation when I urinated, but it went away quickly enough. When I decided to do it again, I selected a bigger size this time. It didn’t look like it would fit, but from what I read, the bigger ones are easier to stabilize and, on a practical level, I wouldn’t end up trying to force it in to quickly or deeply when I wasn’t ready for it.
When I did it again, I selected the next size up and repeated my ritual. Sounds clean and on the bed next to me, the lube next to that. I lubed up and started to slide the rod into my urethra again.
Like riding a bike or like masturbating, the feelings and sensations came back to me almost immediately. I settled into the bigger size—realizing the elasticity in my skin could take more than I thought—and again began to fuck myself.
It doesn’t feel good like an orgasm does, but it does feel good. It isn’t just a spurt or two and it’s over. When I was using my sound, it was a constant hum of pleasure that I felt combined with the gradually relaxing tightness. I shifted my hips to try and go deeper, but felt some pain, so I stopped. Everything I read told me to go slow and if I felt pain, stop, so I did. I went back to what I knew, lubing up and slowly—so slowly—sliding it up and down.
Since then, I’ve begun sounding more often. For me, it is the perfect prelude to an orgasm. I feel a buildup in me unlike anything else. And so, when I do cum, it feels all the better.
I love to include videos in my posts. Here are a couple that are super helpful to help you get more familiar with sounding and how it works.
This first video is…interesting. Apparently guys can incorporate sounding into their prostate play routines. Yikes! I’m a kinky dude, but for now I’ll pass on this one. I’ll definitely have to work up to this. If I do, I’ll DEFINITELY write about it at MrRacy.com! If you happen to have experience with this, I’d love to hear your story.
The sounds in the video below are the same ones I own. The biggest one is SCARY BIG!
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