Urethral sounding: a KINKY guide for beginners

Five years ago, heck, even a year ago, if someone told me that I’d find pleasure with urethral sounding, I’d have laughed in their face.

Times change, though…

Recently, a good friend of mine, who is into S&M, told me about this awesome yet slightly taboo pleasure. It involved inserting a slightly curved metal rod into my penis. Since he knew i was a kinky guy, he thought I’d really enjoy it. He explained to me what it was and gave some suggestions for where I could get my own sounds.

So I tried it. He was wrong. I didn’t like it. I LOVED it. Here’s my story.


So what is urethral sounding?

It’s sometimes referred to as penis or cock sounding or stuffing. This is when you take a metal rod, called a sound, and slide it into your urethra.

People use it for both pleasure and pain. Once you get used to it, you can easily accomplish both. Personally, I’m not into the pain thing.

Here’s my personal experience: when inserted, it makes my penis very sensitive and responsive to external stimuli. For example, a light brushing of the hand across my erect member feels magnified. Even more intense is light masturbation with the rod inserted. When I say light masturbation, I mean applying a very light grip with a hand and slowly stroke up and down.

It’s unique. It’s misunderstood. It’s a bit taboo. But it’s a lot of fun!



Table of contents

  1. Sounds vs. Plugs. There IS a difference.
  2. Three things I learned about sounding
  3. The tools (sounds) you need.
  4. Penis Plugs. Similar but different.
  5. Use plenty of the PROPER lube.
  6. How to do it.
  7. When it’s over.
  8. Cleaning up.
  9. A short story about my first time



This guide covers the basics for safe play

Keep in mind that this guide is designed with the beginning cock sounder in mind. I’ll provide my personal experiences, and make suggestions based on my experience as a complete beginner. Kinda like Sounding 101.

Yes, there are a thousand different implements and methods for sticking things in your penis. But in this post, I’m mainly concerned with keeping things safe, yet fun.


Hegar 8 piece set for urethral sounding

Here’s my first set. Some stainless Hegars. High quality AND inexpensive!


1. Penis plugs vs. Sounds

Before we go any further, it’s important to understand the difference between sounds and plugs. The terms are sometimes used interchangeably, but they are quite different in form and function.



  • Both are used in urethral play
  • Both are inserted into the tip of the penis
  • Both can enhance sexual pleasure


  • A penis plug is meant to be worn during sex and masturbation activities, kind of like jewelry. Some are solid, and some are hollow, to allow urine and ejaculate to pass through.
  • Penis plugs are usually shorter and sometimes have ribs or notches to keep them from slipping out.
  • Urethral Sounds are primarily longer (sometimes long enough to reach the bladder) and generally smooth.
  • Sounds can be moved in and out while playing. Kind of like massaging the inside of the penis. Kinky! Only use small, gentle strokes.


A urethral sound on the left. A hollow penis plug on the right.



2. Three things that I learned about sounding

1. Urethral sounding feels pretty awesome, once I got some practice and overcame the “ewwww” factor. It was primarily a mental block that kept me from truly enjoying this activity, not a physical one.

2. I’m willing to try almost anything sexual, and cock stuffing rates a solid 10 out of 10 on my personal kink scale!

3. The cost of entry is very low. For less than $30 US, I got an entire set of stainless steel sounds and some lube. Penis plugs can be purchased for less than $15 US.


3. The sounds

The urethral sounding rods themselves aren’t always curved. Some are straight, some have bulbs on the end, some are S-shaped, etc. I recommend straight or slighly curved rods for the beginning sounder.

When you’re ready to make a purchase, make sure to shop around (Amazon is a great place to start) to see what is out there and what you might be interested in using. Dittel, Hegar, Pratt and Rosebud all make respectable products. I went with Hegar, based on the positive reviews and comparatively low price.

Sounds often come in sets and are fairly affordable. A good starter kit and some lube can be had for less than $30 US. My set below was $20 US. A great deal for stainless steel, in my opinion. I bought my Hegar set (the one you see below) from Amazon. Here it is.


Urethral sounding rods

Here’s Hegar set, with zipper storage case.


With that said, only use devices that were made for this type of sexual pleasure! Stainless steel is the best, most durable material you can use.

There are also silicone and plastic ones floating around on the market, but I suggest that beginning sounders stay away from these. Along with durability issues, the material could be porous, making it difficult to sterilize between uses.

And, for heaven’s sake, NEVER use a glass utensil! This includes thermometers. Not only do you risk getting shards of glass stuck in there, mercury in the urethra doesn’t sound like much fun either.


CAUTION: An accident with a non-stainless steel sound could be hazardous to your health in a variety of ways.

First and foremost, the tissue that lines your urethra is incredibly sensitive and can tear easily. If you use a sound the wrong way, you can tear the urethral wall. Don’t do this!

The pain will be excruciating and, because of the tear, you open yourself up to infections and other complications.


4. Penis plugs

As I mentioned earlier, these are a bit different from sounds. They perform a similar function (sexual pleasure), but they are designed to be inserted, and then left in place. Kind of like shiny jewelry for your cock!

The designs and styles available are almost limitless. Some are completely smooth. Others have ridges, like mine below. Some come with an included ring that fits over the glans. This holds it safely in place. These prices range from $5 on up. Like real jewelry, the sky is the limit.


hollow penis plug

My stainless steel penis plug. Looks naughty, right? Notice that the surface has ridges and notches. This keeps the plug from slipping out during activities. It also has a hole that goes all the way through, to let ejaculate and urine pass.


I bought this plug from Amazon as well. See it here.

The main benefit of using a plug is that it makes the penis more sensitive. Some men experience harder erections and more intense orgasms.

I’m one of the lucky guys. Even in fourties, my erections are hard like diamond when I have one of these stuffed in my erect penis. The orgasms are certainly more intense. And when I cum, it definitely shoots farther as a result of the narrower, hollow orifice. Since my girlfriend is a total cum slut, this is a win-win for both of us.

Penis plugs are perfect for beginners, especially if you’re on the fence regarding urethral play. For less than $15, this is a great way to stick your toe in the water and see if this masturbation activity is your cup of tea. If not, no big deal…and you’re not out much cash. If you end of loving it (like me), you can take the next step and grab a full set of sounds.


5. Lube up!

Lube is VERY important when sounding. When choosing a lube, stay away from those with glycerin in them, as the sugar component in these lubes can cause UTIs.

I initially thought about using one of my favorite prostate massage lubes, ID Glide. Upon reading the ingredient list, I realized it contained glycerin. No go. So I picked up some SurgiLube and I was ready to go.


Pro Tip: don’t use saliva!

Saliva is also not an optimum lube. Not only can it cause UTIs, but it can dry up and cause irritation and pain. Friction is the LAST thing you need when sliding a metal rod in and out of your dick.


6. How to do it

The process itself is quite simple. The main thing being that if you feel pain or extreme tightness or pressure, stop. There may be scar tissue or other blockages and you don’t want to run the risk of tearing something in there.

Before doing anything, make sure your urethral sounding rods are clean and sterilized. You can sterilize your sounds in boiling water (boil for thirty minutes or so) and, when you’re ready to start, make sure your penis and your hands are both clean.

If the sounds (or hands) end up touching something not clean, you run the risk of inserting whatever bacteria it may be into your body. Wash again and start over.

Once the implements are cleaned and cooled to a safe temperature, you’ll want to lube the sound as well as the area around the penis hole. Slowly let the rod slide into your urethra, pushing gently to ease it in. The first few times it may take some time to get used to the sensations and feelings. The key is going slow.

Once you get used to the size and the feeling of something inside your dick, you can begin to experiment a little bit by switching up the size of the sound or even rotating it while inside you. This is one of my personal favorite things to do!

When it comes to size, I recommended that you start at a size larger than the smallest one until you become comfortable with the process. A smaller sound could lead to puncturing or other damage when you are not as sure-handed as you might be eventually. This is why I started with the second smallest one, second from right in the Hegar set below.


Urethral sounds made by Hegar

Hegar 8 piece set, in case. I commonly use the 2nd through 4th ones from the right. The first one is too small. And the rest are just too darn big for me!



7. When it’s over

After urethral sounding is over, you may also feel a burning sensation when you urinate, which is caused by the irritation of the urethral wall by the sound. (If you’re into S&M, then this might be something right up your alley.) This is normal and usually dissipates quickly enough.


8. Finishing up

When you are done, it’s very important to thoroughly wash the implement and also to urinate so as to clear out the urethra. If you are using sounds with multiple people—sounds can play into many different S&M scenarios—the cleanliness of your sound is of even greater importance. Improperly cleaned tools, when shared, can lead to a host of STIs.


9. A short story about my first time

My Hegar sounds came in the mail while I was at work. Later that night, I decided it would be the first time I was going to try it. No one else was in the house. The sounding kit that I had gotten off Amazon was open next to me on the bed.

I’d boiled them earlier to make sure they were clean and ready. Next to that was my new tube of Surgilube that I also picked up online.

For a few moments, it was like being back in school and waiting to go into the principal’s office. What was going to happen? Was it going to hurt? What if I really did like it? Beyond that, that, what mood was I supposed to set? Did I need music? Was I trying to romance myself the first time I was going to slide a steel rod up my dick? Ah, so many questions.

I decided on music—if nothing else than to put my mind at ease—and sat back down on the bed. I pushed the thoughts that something would go wrong out of my head, grabbed by cock, and lubed the head around the hole. I also lubed up the sound—I went with the second-smallest—and placed the tip on top of the hole.


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This was it. My friend said I was going to love it and now was the time to find out. I started to slide the sound into my cock. I let the sound glide in, slowly, and after a few inches I stopped. I was told not to force it and, really just to be one with the sensation.

As I sat there with the sound in my dick, I could feel a little tightness, but nothing too bad. It was the kind of tightness that feels good, like when a girl knows just how to hold your cock when she’s jerking you off, but on the inside. I sat there for another moment, feeling the sound inside me, before pulling it out and lubing it up again.

I was amazed that it didn’t hurt like I thought it would. I was ready to go again and, with a freshly lubed sound, I went back at it. When I got to the point where I stopped the first time, I gently started fucking my own cock with the sound, moving about a quarter-inch to a half-inch up and down.

It was weird at first, but I got used to it quickly. The tightness I had felt before had gone away a little and it started to feel pleasurable. I went slowly, like I was trying to romance my own cock with slow, sensual sex.

I continued this for a little while more, until I felt like the lube may be wearing off. I took the sound out and lubed it up once again.


I was hooked!

What had seemed so weird and painful just hours before was now something I began to think I couldn’t live without. Where had this been my whole life? It sounds cheap, but I felt like a new man. Now I had something for those days when my lady just wasn’t doing it for me. Or, even better, I thought about showing her. The image of the fun we were going to have together increased my pleasure even more.

I went for a few more minutes before stopping. I didn’t want to overdo it on my first try. I had been told that it might be sore after or that it would burn to urinate, so I didn’t want to cause too much pain right away.

I cleaned my sound and went to the bathroom to flush everything out before putting my new favorite toy away. I went into the shower after and masturbated, thinking about how I wanted to use it with my girlfriend as soon as I got the hang of it.

Overall, the first time wasn’t terrible, but it wasn’t the best I would have. It was like doing anything for the first time—masturbating, having sex, going down on a girl—you sort of know what you’re doing, but you still really don’t. So the sensations are going to be different from when you really know what’s going on.

I didn’t do it again for a week. There was a slight burning sensation when I urinated, but it went away quickly enough. When I decided to do it again, I selected a bigger size this time. It didn’t look like it would fit, but from what I read, the bigger ones are easier to stabilize and, on a practical level, I wouldn’t end up trying to force it in to quickly or deeply when I wasn’t ready for it.

When I did it again, I selected the next size up and repeated my ritual. Sounds clean and on the bed next to me, the lube next to that. I lubed up and started to slide the rod into my urethra again.

Like riding a bike or like masturbating, the feelings and sensations came back to me almost immediately. I settled into the bigger size—realizing the elasticity in my skin could take more than I thought—and again began to fuck myself.

It doesn’t feel good like an orgasm does, but it does feel good. It isn’t just a spurt or two and it’s over. When I was using my sound, it was a constant hum of pleasure that I felt combined with the gradually relaxing tightness. I shifted my hips to try and go deeper, but felt some pain, so I stopped. Everything I read told me to go slow and if I felt pain, stop, so I did. I went back to what I knew, lubing up and slowly—so slowly—sliding it up and down.

Since then, I’ve begun sounding more often. For me, it is the perfect prelude to an orgasm. I feel a buildup in me unlike anything else. And so, when I do cum, it feels all the better.




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Author: Dave

Hi, I’m Dave. And I’m a….sex fiend?!? No, not really. But, Kinda :)

Actually, I’m just your average white collar guy who happens to have a soft spot for sexy WOMEN and HOT sex toys. Hence, these are my chosen topics for this blog.

I’m fluent in 3 languages: English, Profanity and Sarcasm.

I own a number of male sex toys, and my personal “toybox” is growing rapidly. But prostate toys are my favorite.

So, enjoy the ride, and drop me a line if you have something to say!

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  1. I’ve been Sounding for 8 or 9 years now. Just got my 5th set. I have many individual ones as well.
    When I was looking for a subject for my new Twitter page last year I was shocked when I see how few and far between and good sounding vids were. So I stepped it up and have tweeted more than 3000 vids of different guys sounding.
    It’s given me the opportunity to chat with guys on every continent and hear and sometimes see their efforts and share my experience with them.
    Sounding has become something not so taboo as it once was. Guys share with me their successes and failures.
    I try to keep the subject pure so I don’t have any extraneous vids on my page.
    Sounding is a legitimate pastime that many guys and some gals enjoy. It’s safe when done properly and something that can be shared with a friend as well.
    Try it. You won’t know what your missing until you do!

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  2. I just started with the smallest Hager Sound. Experienced some resistance just beyond the head. Pushed on slowly. Finally it slid all the way in.
    Why did I have a dark red blood bleed? There was about 2-3 tablespoons of blood. A day later I am still getting a little blood when starting a stream of urine. No pain. Enjoyed it. Am looking forward to bigger and better sounding.
    I used rubbing alcohol to clean the sounds for first use. Am seeing boiling the sounds from 5 to 30 minutes. What’s enough to kill the bugs?
    Any suggestions when continuing using the set?
    Thanks in advance for your replies.

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  3. An update wit the pain of the larger ones, I found on another site to use Orajel, that does stop the pain and allows you to enjoy that sensual feeling.

    I still want to find a way to permanently increase the diameter

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  4. I have the set and I can’t get passed the third size. The end of the penis doesn’t stretch open enough to get a larger size in. I use plenty of lube.
    What is the best way to stretch without pain?
    I can get the full rod in. I have wait a couple of minutes for the pain to go away after the large one goes in. I want to go larger.
    I haven’t been able to cum but I would like to.
    Any ideas?

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    • Dave

      To be perfectly honest, I can’t get past the third size either. TOO DAMN BIG! I tried it a couple of times but just couldn’t handle it. Sorry but I can’t offer any suggestions except practice, practice, practice.

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      • I went for the UK S/steel, similar to yours. The smaller ones looked too thin so went straight to 6mm. Slid in by itself as did 7mm. 8mm was a bit tight, but practice saw it soon dropping in.
        9mm now is a snug fit altho doesn’t drop but feels sooooo good. Working on 10mm which will eventually slide/drop, hopefully.
        A question, does this process of increasing the size of the sound actually make the penis fatter? Mine feels a bit more rotund these days.

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    • I am on the 4th size, 9-10mm. On looking at my slit, I dont think any more than 11mm will fit. I can get 11 in about 2cm deep but that is where the first “barrier” seems to be and that seems to be the main obstruction. I guess practice and patience is the key.

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  5. curious…..can use sounds while in chastity(cb6000)?

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    • Dave

      Ya know, I have never tried that. I would be hesitant to do so, though. I wouldn’t want anything to constrict or move things the wrong way.

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  6. I prefer the Van Buren sounds. When I first got some, I was intimidated by the curve.
    I found that it is almost impossible to insert when your cock is hard, but when soft, the curve goes in easily, and once it reaches the pubic bone, seems to go of it’s own accord on into the prostate/bladder.
    Once it is in, I find I can (carefully) stand up, and it will stay in place for as long as I wish. I do have men come so I can suck their cocks, and I enjoy having just the grip end of the sound sticking out of the end of my cock when I meet them at the door, or greet them outside in warm weather. Those who are unfamiliar with sounds, are amazed when they see how much steel I remove from my cock when it’s their turn to suck me. My cock does get hard when I am sucking them, with the sound inside of my cock.

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  7. I started using rosebuds about 9 years ago, I was hooked instantly. Now I make my own and my favorite is a 10 inch bar about a half inch round, during sex it gets forced out with contractions and then pushed back in by the vagina. My orgasms went from lasting around 40 seconds to well over 2 minutes and they are INTENSE!

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  8. I use the Hagars too and they are the best way to start. I also use some other single rods that are smooth and wavy and are longer than the 8″ Hagars and also have a ring at the end to avoid over insertion. However, I sometimes even remove the ring so that I can slide it all deeper still and make it disappear completely (don’t worry…your urethra is curved and there’s no way a 10″ steel rod is going to get very far in you and it can easily be forced out using your kegle muscles). REWARD: There is a special “spot” just past a little bump caused by your hip bone that ushers you into the area that’s surrounded by the prostate. THAT’s where it really gets pleasurable, and masturbating to orgasm there will blow the top of your head off! Cumming with a 10″ sound in your rock hard dick is just indescribably pleasurable. Other guys just don’t know what they’re missing and aren’t getting some of the full potential of their dicks. Too bad for them. BTW: It’s not a “gay” thing to do…straight guys will love it so there’s no shame in it.

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    • I cant find this spot. I got to the bladder and tried to jiggle to the prostate but have trouble locating it. Using 8″ sounds. I get to where I can locate the prostate externally, but then cannot adjust my sound to reach that spot. Frustrating.

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  9. Hey Guys,
    Ive been sounding for about a year and like your article says I too was kinda freaked out but being a freak I wanted to try. Its so intense. I imagine its what it must be like to be fucked only slower
    And deeper, I lube it and let gravity do the rest. It slides down to my prostate and stops if im hard then it slides past to my bladder. I stop there and begin a slow in and out until I cant stand it and its over. I blow a huge load every time. Have tried to go up in size but love the middle size as it is thicker on one end and i cant switch ends. Love it! Thanks
    Letting me share

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  10. My first experience was with the pratt brand today and I started with the smallest one and ended up going to the 4th rod and it felt awesome. I like the heavy weight of the pratt sounds they almost insert themselves so there is no danger of forcing it in. The only advice i would give other than already stated above about starting small and working up is to just go ahead and get some surgilube online. the lube I used caused a little burning after I played. use the surgilube!

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  11. I use hagars, but have recently started using silacon stretchers and they are making moving up in size easier. Rght now I am using 13.5 mm bt 8 inches. Plus rhey are cum through, so they are fun to stroke off with them in.

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